My husband already hates the 2 that I have and say's, "I didn't sign up for a girl covered in ink." It's not like I want somthing big and obviuos - I just like tattoos (and wish he would get some).
Also - he says if I get a tattoo - he's getting a motorcycle (which aside from the fact that we can't afford one, I told him he can have a stupid motorcycle after we start having kids {so he doesn't die & leave me w/ none } )
2006-10-16 08:49:41 · 29 answers · asked by autumn 5 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
in responce to one of the answer about me being the one wasting money on the tattoo...I should add that I am currently the bread winner as he is still in school & that to save on gas bills and what not I walk to work. Money is not the issue here.
2006-10-16 09:00:47 · update #1
Well when you get married it's for better or for worse. etc., etc.
You may not like this answer.
You are also considered one in marriage and should make decisions together not seperately from each other unless it is a crisis of some kind with children, finances etc. He should ask you if he could get a motorcycle and what is your opinion and if you say no, he should abide by that. If you sit with him and say let's discuss my getting a tatoo and what you have against it, blah, blah, yada, yada. If he says no.......then you may have to respect his wishes. At any rate, discuss things with out yelling or cussing at each other.
2006-10-16 09:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by Beauty 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Did U get the other 2 B4 u were married? If so then his comment was not justified.
I'm the full believer in it's your body, it's your decision. However, I do believe in the marriage unity and you really should consider his side. I'm totally into tats (have 12 myself) and motorcycles (plan on getting my Harley for my birthday) but being married does mean the other persons opinion should take a factor into the decisions that will (obviously) affect the marriage. Which this will. Same with the motorcycle issue.
That's why I'm not getting remarried. I am too darn independant and don't like having to "ask" somebody something that I'm want to do or have. I've already done that path in my life. I like this path better.
2006-10-16 18:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by tygernside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi all i can say is it really important for you to have a tattoo and do you really need it. and is it worth all this arguing other. Maybe your husband likes you how you are. But how would you feel and what would you say if he went out and did something to himself that you didnt like. I dont know im funny myself with tattoos. I said i would always get one but now im older, i think what is the point in spending from £15- god knows what price to just have it covered up by clothes. When that money could of gone on something i needed.As for the motorcycle thing, hes having you on he obviously knows how to push your buttons and knows you dont like motorcycles. Even though you cant afford it, you feeling how you would feel if he got a motocycle will be how he feels .
But its your body and i suppose its up to you, what you do with it
2006-10-16 16:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is your body, and your decision. I think it is unfair when people do that to their spouse, it's childish and immature. He maybe didn't "sign up" for a girl covered in ink, but he did sign up for YOU. Apparently he cannot accept the fact that they are obviously something you like and are a part of you. I think you should sit him down and talk to him about it. You don't need to ask permissin, but I don't think that you should rush off and get one, because that may cause problems, since he seems so against it, but try and reason with him gently? I don't know, doll, I haven't experienced this before.
EDIT: You're more likely to catch something in a doctor's or hospital than in a truly sterile tattoo shop, with competent staff on duty and clean shop.
My husband loves them, I have more than him, but I have been working on his a lot lately, one day he'll catch up. I also got him into the business of tattoo for a while. that was fun.
2006-10-16 16:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by Yeop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he should have some say...but really it is your body ..but you are his wife...and what the husband says should be considered...I told my husband I was getting a tattoo...he put his two cents in ....I had saved up for it..(so he couldn't complain) I had my tattoo done but a few details I left for another time (6.5 hours) He knows Its not done...he tried to tell me that I wasn't allowed to get any more..I reminded him and he had nothing more to say...and yes..buy a bike its great fun for both..
2006-10-16 18:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is your body and you really dont have to ask his permission, I would say be considerate and set yourself a limit. Money shouldnt be an issue in tatoo or motorcycle. Let him know when you plan on stopping to get tattoos.
2006-10-16 15:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by leikevy 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is your body, it is your decision. If you want to get a tattoo go for it. If all else fails have a nice talk to him about the subject. Be sure to lay all the cards on the table that are relevant to the subject
2006-10-16 15:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Joe P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you go for it
who is this man trying to tell you what to do
I will tell you what, I am gay, but if i can live wiht you and go back to school i will enthusiastically support ur decision to get tattoo! You can get me one while you are at it too!
We can also have sex once a week so u can get pregnant and i have three tattoos and I promise not to get a motorcycle till i reach my mid life crisis
do we have a deal? my tattoos are sexy ;-)
2006-10-17 03:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jayson V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He married you with ink, and your body belongs to you.
If he is being juvenile to deny you the right to express yourself.
Re- the motorcycle- last time I checked you are much more likely to die in a bike crash than from getting ink.... perhaps he should consider getting ink himself....
2006-10-16 17:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Max 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi-
Marriage is a two way street, and yet in order for you to work through issues is to talk about them...
For example- *why* does he not want you to get more tattoos
*why* do you need to?
*are you willing to have your marriage disrupted over something so petty?*
Communication is the key....
Good luck....
PS.......if you were looking for a *technical* answer to your question....Yes your spouse has a say...but it should be a compromise in communication not a breakdown.
2006-10-16 15:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by tahitidreamz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋