My now ex-boyfrend hit me in the head with a glass on friday night causing bodily injury. I called 911 and recieved assistance from the local police department and paramedics. I found out the state is charging him with felony assult because it turns out I am the third girlfriend he has done this to. What do I need to d, what will happen to him, and I just found ou t I am pregnant with his child so what do I need to do as far as custody and things of that nature. Please leave me any information to help with this matter. Thank you all and take care.
2006-10-16 08:25:59 · 19 answers · asked by starbrite 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
get a restraining order and file for support for the child. If he lets go of his parental rights, then I am sorry you are on your own with taking care of the child financially, which honestly may be for the best anyway. You do not have to have him at the hospital and (where I live ) if the parents are not married the father has to file for paternity, you do not need to put his last name on the birth certificate, use yours. He doesn't not need to be involved, if he wants to be then you will have a bigger mess on your hands, lets just hope he walks away and doesn't look back.
2006-10-16 08:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is for sure going to be charged with a felony assult, you may have to testify in court. There is nothing you can do about custody issues until the baby is born. When the baby is born, you can contact your local child support agency and let them know your situation. You will have to go to court for this, also. Since you are not married, the state may require a paternity test (especially if you recieve state benefits). He may get visitation rights. However, keeping a journal of events is the best thing to do. Keeping letters from jail, etc.. You probably will have a no-contact order and have the choice to get a restraining order. If this is the third girl he has done this to, he may sit in jail for a while, (a year) if he is found guilty. It will be your word against his. The hardest thing you'll ever have to do is face him in court if you have to go. I hope you don't have to. As far as child support, he may still have legal rights, unless you want to fight it. Usually, the courts prefer the parents to come up with an agreement. If not, physical placement rights may go to you and he may recieve visitation upon reasonable notice. I know all this, since I went through the same exact thing. The difference is, I was the first girl he ever did this too.
2006-10-16 08:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by jamie_lynnsuperstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the third person he has assaulted in this way you need to follow through with the charges. He WILL do it again. Get him out of your life as much as possible. As far as custody is concerned you can file for full custody since your boyfriend will probably be in jail. You should also file for child support. Even though he is in jail, he is still responsible to help you raise the child. Good luck.
2006-10-16 08:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jim T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first he is going to prison 4 assault so this is easy make sure you start getting child support. You will automatically get full custody. He will then have to fight for custody in court for any type of joint custody. Two get a restraining order on him it will keep him from being able to come near you of your baby at all. The other way is to not put him as the father still get restraining order but if you do this you can never get child support from him with out him taking DNA test to prove it is his. But you can always say it is someone Else's baby witch would block him from ever having anything to do with that child. Talk to a lawyer i hope this helps you out
2006-10-16 08:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by John L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad he is your ex first of all. many women tend to go back to abusive relationships. I did and had two children with the man. It doesn't work, if he hits you once he will do it again. I would talk to the police and get a restaining order if there isn't already one in place. Go on about your life and don't worry about him, he made his own bed. as for the child most men that are abusive have no interest in seeing their children but if he does want to see this child I would recommend that you see to it that he is suppervised at first and if you have problems you can always put a restraining order on him for your child. Always put your child first and never let them see you being abused. they think it is ok if they grow up around it. Good luck and stay away from him
2006-10-16 08:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by Bonnie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will probably be facing some jail time. He could get up to 20 years in prison but I seriously doubt it due to prisons being overcrowded. I would definitly get a restraining order if he gets out. It sounds like he has some major anger issues. He could be dangerous. I seriously doubt he could get custody since he is a convicted felon.
2006-10-16 08:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
him - jail you - child support
right now - restraining order ( or be stupid and get beat up a few more times first - your choice but remember you are deciding for two )
as for custody after the baby is born it is VERY IMPORTANT that you go before a judge and request SOLE CUSTODY AND NO VISITATION do it immediately because he can also go do the same now or in the future
2006-10-16 08:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and let him go to jail.
If this guy has a habit of doing this to his girlfriends, he'll probably assault you again if he gets the chance.
You should have no trouble keeping custody of the baby with a loser like this as the father.
2006-10-16 08:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the state is filing then they will contact you, if needed, to testify against him in court. As far as your child, depends on what you want to do. If you want him to pay support, get an attorney. If you want him to have restricted or no access to the child, get an attorney. Basically, get attorney. Its the best, fastest and safest way for you.
2006-10-16 08:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by brett.brown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to do anything, the court will handle it. You may have to testify in court against him. Do it. You can't allow this guy to continue to treat women this way. Your pregnant, well I guess you can most likely get on w/o him as his behavior tells my he is too immature to be a father now. Good luck.
2006-10-16 08:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋