If you dont really feel like being a mother (or father) would you consider doing so only for the sake of fulfiling a dream of the one you love?
2006-10-16 08:24:21 · 30 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. You have to think about that childs wellbeing You have to also think about the what ifs.... Like what if you to break up what if you actually get pregnant and then realize you really arent ready to be a parent and so on and so on Once you become a parent you will always be a parent and you may have to deal with the person you had the child with for the rest of your life
2006-10-16 08:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by mizzmi73 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's definitely something that the two of you need to think about and decide as a couple. If you are doing it ONLY to make him happy then you are doing it for the wrong reason b/c you WILL be a mother/father regardless. That child will ALWAYS be your responsibility.
2006-10-16 08:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't want kids. One of the first things I tell a guy is that I don't want any. That way, the relationship doesn't go any further and nobody gets hurt. It's selfish to bring a child into the world, knowing you don't want it. Also, you will have regrets and bad feelings toward the person for having done it.
2006-10-16 08:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by freedove06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it must be your dream too because committing to fatherhood involves more than you think. In this case your should think about yourself first, feelings, fears and etc. towards being responsible for a human life for a several number of years and then consider your life partner's feelings.
2006-10-16 08:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lil' Gay Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO your partner isn't thinking or doesn't care about what you think or feel. It's also not fair to the child. Both of you need to be ready. It is a life long job, raising a kid. Don't let your partner push you into something your not ready for.
2006-10-16 08:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by fr2fish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you're not ready to be a parent, then by all means, do not become a parent with your partner. Just think about the life of the child. You'd want him/her to have the happiest possible life, not to be half wanted.
2006-10-16 08:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by Psylence 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that would be one of the worst reasons to bring a child into this world. The birth of a child should be planned and lovingly accepted by both parents.
2006-10-16 08:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reasons you don't want children. If you really love the person and you don't hate children why not? there is nothing like holding your baby for the very first time
2006-10-16 08:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. Children should not be casually created or destroyed. They are precious, tiny little human beings.
Differing on whether or not to have children is a significant enough problem that I would stop seeing that person if we came to an impasse.
2006-10-16 08:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lanani 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did, and i was stupid, but i still love my kids very much....i just wasn't ready, and he made me even more upset when he didn't help me take care of them...so this third one, wasn't even supposed to happen, but i ran out of birth control, and the second one too. So now, i'm so unhappy cause i can't ever have fun, only him. And i have no friends.
2006-10-16 08:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by Girlish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋