So for about 2 months I've been "seeing someone" we hang out, talk every night on the phone, we go out, and we have sex, and were exclusive, the only thing that is missing that i want is comitment. However here is the problem he still has feelings for his ex girlfriend but he talks about her like shes not that great he says that she is boring and he hated being with her. I'm so confused because i know he likes me but i want to be in a commited relationship so how do i get him to get over his old girl friend and commit to me? or am i just wasting my time?
2006-10-16 08:13:34 · 9 answers · asked by danidoo26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like he's getting the best of you without really having you. He's getting your time, your feelings and your body but he doesn't have to tell anyone you're his girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, "why is he hiding you?" And I'll tell you right now, it's not because he wants to keep you all to himself. He's keeping you on the side until he knows what's going on with his ex. I would walk away from the situation. If he comes back around, maybe he has sincere feelings. Until then, you don't need him.
2006-10-16 08:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ally S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a Jamaican proverb that says "you can carry donkey to the well but you can't force him fi drink water" what i am trying to say is that you can force him to commit to you he has to do it on his own free will. But then again if he is still cares about his ex-girlfriend i think you are just wasting your time.
2006-10-16 15:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by cute angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely wasting your time. He can't make up his mind and definitely isn't ready for committment. My advice... get dressed up, go out with friends, and find someone who's ready to be committed in a relationship
2006-10-16 15:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say.... What tha hell? Yall are doing all that and yall are not committed. You're basically being played if you're letting him sleep with you; and there's NO commitment. I think you need to tell him either you 2 HOOK-UP or it's OVER
2006-10-16 15:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you are exclusive, doesn't that mean that you are commited? If he doesn't want to commit, tell him to make a move or you're moving on.
2006-10-16 15:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him does he still have feelings for his ex. Tell him you are not trying to rush him cause he just got a relationship but what are his intentions with you. Be carefull how you ask don't want to run him away. Wait for a good moment
2006-10-16 15:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him. He needs to figure out what he wants. you should not have to worry about it. If he cares for you he will show you and commit.
You cant "make" him get over her. It doesnt work that way. I think he needs to realize what he could lose.
2006-10-16 15:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by LiveLaughLove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him do anything. he either commits to you or he doesn't. He has issues he needs to resolve and you cannot do anything but wait or leave.
2006-10-16 15:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds just like my situation...almost exactly...what i have decided to do is talk to him and ask him to tell me honestly what he wants...if it's not me then i am wasting my time...so go talk to him...if he's interested in you, then you'll be happy...if not, at least you know to move one...good luck to us both
2006-10-16 15:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by vicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋