My family is dissapointed and i dont know i love her but people dont understand i mean she looks probably about 4 years older then me i dont see the problem do you? Advice?
2006-10-16 08:11:57 · 25 answers · asked by josh o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. As long as you two love each other I see no problems.
2006-10-16 08:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Josh:
oh my god! thats so wrong! I mean this woman is like more than 10 years your senior! I am 21 and I cant imagine myself with a 27 years old person , how can u?
I know that love is blind , has no age and stuff like that but love is also temporary and the fact that you say she lloks only 4 years younger means that u like her looks! So what will u do when she ages faster n faster? You will evebtually feel useless and old!
Babes, you are young and you deserve someone better, leave tis old woman(sorry) and ur family is correct, think abt urself, if u would want ur 10 year old son marrying a 23 years old woman!
Good luck and I hope you are not offended!
Love SANAM
2006-10-16 08:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a problem now, but it could be a problem in the future, and I'm sure that is what your friends and family are concerned about. It will be difficult when you are 38, and she is 52. That is what you need to think about. In the meantime, you have a baby on the way! So, regardless of what ANYONE thinks you need to step up and take care of the baby. If you love this woman it can work! If you are willing to commit yourself to her, you better be willing to take the bad with the good!!
2006-10-16 08:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you need to know. If she keeps the baby, you are about to be a father. Hopfully, you want to marry this woman and start a life with her. If she does not keep this baby, be there for her and help her work through her emotions.
You are an adult now and nothing else matters (not even age) except that you be a man and take responsibility for your actions. Your family probably just wanted you to get more out of life and not end up being a young father, but that's your fault for not protecting yourself. Be a man, step up to the plate and let them see you can do it.
2006-10-16 08:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy and she is happy, then that is all you should worry about. Sometimes you have to be a little selfish and take care of yourself first. Your family will more than likely come around. Maybe go out to dinner one night and let them get to know her better. My dad didn't like the fact that my now husband was 10 yrs older than me, but when he met him and got to know him over the course of about a couple months, he loves him like he was his own now.
2006-10-16 08:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family if they love you they will back off and let you do the right thing.... whether you love her or not you need to step up and be a man. If you got her pregnant no matter what happens between yall that baby will alwayz need a daddy
2006-10-16 08:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three issues:
1. Why did she allow herself to get pregnant?
2. You're effectively still just a kid and she's a woman.
3. When you're 55 and still in your prime she will be 68 and approaching old age.
Just some things to THINK ABOUT!
2006-10-16 08:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you'll be 30, she'll be 43. that's a lot of difference. People at the age of 30 feel young, people at the age of 43 feel that their life is now towards the end. i would say, be careful. i mean, when you're 50, she'll be 63. when you'll be 80, she'll be 93. that's a lot of difference. and considering that guys are usually much less mature than women, you'll have to be extra extra mature to match her maturity, or she will get bored of you later.
2006-10-16 08:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by मददगार 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other, and everyone is over the age of concent, go for it. Your father cannot choose who you will love. As you grow and develop, you may change your mind, but for now, what is the difference. Men date womenwho are 20 years younger than them and no one bats an eye.
2006-10-16 08:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by faye n 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you are both adults...if you love each other..or even it you don't love each other and just like being together then it's all good...enjoy it...just be respectful of your family and tell them (nicely) that you have feelings for this woman and she is a part of your life..you love them and want them to stay a part of your life also...you would love for everyone to get along...take everyone out to lunch...let them meet each other and get to know each other...just remember to respect everyone's feelings...especially your own
2006-10-16 08:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by Luv_bunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋