Until last week, I was MADLY in love with my boyfriend. Now I'm confused.. A few months ago, I moved away from home to another city about an hour and a half drive away. Since I don't have a car and my parents are not approving of me dating, it's very difficult to see him, if at all these days. A week ago, I felt that I had to see him no matter what and took the train near midnight to go see him! I had to be up at 4 in the morning to rush back on the train and make it work. I had thought that when I see him, I'd be happier than anything that I was with him, if just for a little while. But the way I felt when I saw him was very different, almost like "so, I guess this is my boyfriend huh?" and when he kissed me I was literally going to move back and say 'not so fast,buddy'. Today he will be visiting my city on business, and obviously it's assumed that I will go see him. But I really don't want to! I don't wanna lie to him either, but I just dont want to see him. What's wrong with me?
2006-10-16 08:11:16 · 4 answers · asked by chocolateorange 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't meet anyone else, actually life is very boring since I moved as I don't have many friends at all and it's a small boring town anyway compared to the big city I used to live in before. And we have been dating for about a year now...didn't see this coming at all, last week I would have been as giddy as a schoolgirl and sworn I was in love with him..is this just a temporary thing? No one could love me more than he does, and I'd hate to lose that. It just...feels like something shifted in my mind all of a sudden and the relationship is not the same anymore. Should I go talk to him about it today? I'm afraid that I'm honest about it I will hurt his feelings.
2006-10-16 08:37:02 · update #1
i think that the long distance thing also put a damp on your feelings for your bf. they say things and people change and i'm afraid that your feelings changed too. i'm not saying go break up with him the next time you see him! go see him when he comes over to your city and see how you feel then. if you really can't feel that spark and every minute with him is really a torture then break things off. but if you started feeling like you did miss him or you'd regret breaking up with him just b/c of the long-distance thing, then don't! talk to him about it and see what he says. it might be something helpful or useless, but it can't be worse than asking millions of strangers (like me!) for their advice. good luck!
2006-10-16 08:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by M.Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are stressful. You've probably gotten to wondering if this relationship is even going to survive the distance. After all it was you making the midnight trip to go see him and not the other way around. Maybe at this point, you're wondering if it's worth the extra effort to make it work and whether you're going to see him making an equal effort. In these few months, I'm sure you've gotten accustomed to things in your new city, hopefully even made some new friends. You have a new life now that doesn't include him. There's nothing wrong with you for taking a second look at your relationship and trying to determine if it's still fulfilling for you. From the sounds of it, you want to move on. The best thing is to explain how you feel to him so he can move on as well.
2006-10-16 08:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by sd_silverdust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you , it is very rare that a long distance relationship lasts , this is how you know how strong your feelings are and how much you trust each other as that pays a big part in all of this , the question you should be asking your self is what type of relationship do you want if its someone to go out enjoying days and nights out and kissing and cuddleing on the sofa it aint going to happen unless one of you moves and that a BIG step if you want to talk about this more add me on msn my address is chips1984@hotmail.com
2006-10-16 08:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by paul f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um it sounds like there's something missing in this story. did you meet someone recently? if not then i think it's just that the "honeymoon phase" of the relationship is over. that's the beginning the relationship roughly 2-3 months when it's just pure bliss because everything is new and exciting. it's just natural that youre feeling this way. go with your instincts and do what your heart tells you what to do.
2006-10-16 08:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋