My son's grandma (dad's mom) watches him a couple of days a week, when our work schedules overlap. Last week I picked him up and we stopped at the grocery store on the way home. I noticed his hair was cut short straight across the front. It looked awful! He doesn't have that much hair and had just gotten his first haircut about three weeks ago. Needless to say, I was LIVID. Of course, his parents have done a lot for us and I am so grateful, but I really feel like she overstepped her boundries by taking it upon herself to cut his hair without asking me. I am not sure how to let her know that is not acceptable to do, without causing problems. She is very high strung, and I know if I say anything to her, she will be hurt and upset. Help!
2006-10-16 08:10:09 · 12 answers · asked by ootxmusicgirloo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to handle it diplomatically. I understand your feelings, but it will grow back, it's only hair. At least that's what I've told myself after every bad haircut I've ever gotten. Tell her that you appreciate the thought, but that you would really prefer to have his hair cut by the person who did the first cut. If she flips out, that's her problem. He's your son and it's your decision when, if and how his hair is cut. If it looks that bad, buzz it off and when she asks why, tell her other kids were laughing at the other haircut and it made him cry. If his dad is any good at standing up to her, have him talk to her. Or maybe Grandpa if he's easier to talk to. Good luck!
2006-10-16 08:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A toughy. Sounds possible Grandma has a couple control Issues? Regardless, you need to be sure you are in good space and let her know you need to be the one who makes those decisions in your family. If you say nothing, she won't know why there is a problem. And that problem will grow if not addressed.
How she reacts or responds, who knows? Take it 1 step at a time. She just might surprise you. Either way you will learn something about each of you that will come in handy down the road.
My parents and hers all didn't realize they had to stop being parents for yeas after we were married. In the end we all found ways to cope; Above all, we all wanted to get along. Each of us had to overlook a lot that really wasn't important after they were gone. And my mother always gave me lousy haircuts too.
Good Luck.
2006-10-16 08:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is allow your husband to handle the situation. However, if that is not an option then you can handle it in a cordial matter. Let her know that you appreciate her and all that she does. Within all that you can tell her that you just got his hair cut and maybe the next time she could bring him for an appointment. See when her schedule permits and that YOU can make the appointment.
2006-10-16 08:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by bobbiericky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me my ex mother in law who was a hair stylist was babysitting one day and when I came home she had completly buzzed my sons hair off I was furious I took A fit and told her if she ever touched my sons hair again she would never see him again .after A few days of not speaking she called and said she was sory and all was fine.
2006-10-16 08:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let your husband handle it. Tell him you love his mom & that you are so angry you're afraid if you say anything to her about it that you will not be able to control your temper and that you do not want to hurt her.
If it were me, my baby wouldn't go there anymore. My son has 1 long curl on one side of his head that my stepmom (who keeps him 2 days a week) keeps saying that she wants to cut off & put in her scrapbook. I jokingly let her know that if she did that he would not stay with her anymore!
2006-10-16 08:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
before you get all excited are you sure grandma actually cut it? Little kids tend to trim their own hair and when asked who did it will respond anything but themselves. I even had a cat cut hair one time so anything is possible.
If grandma actually did it and it wasn't to remove chewing gum or such from his hair just ask her in a nice way to please not cut it again.
2006-10-16 08:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better off her hurt and upset than you! She most defiantly overstepped her bounds and you better let her know it! My ex mother in law did that to my Son and he had not had his 1st cut yet! I came unglued on the bit ch! she never cut one hair on any of my kids heads again!! she was and still is a dumb bit ch!
2006-10-16 08:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Bawls 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
better off her hurt and upset than you! She most defiantly overstepped her bounds and you better let her know it! My ex mother in law did that to my Son and he had not had his 1st cut yet! I came unglued on the bit ch! she never cut one hair on any of my kids heads again!! she was and still is a dumb bit ch!
2006-10-16 08:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get your husband to say something to her. He can tell her better than you can without her getting as upset. Your husband needs to lay down the law.
2006-10-16 08:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain your feelings with her honestly but gently. tell her next time if she wants to "take" him to get his hair cut please come to you first. tell her you do appreciate all she does for you but this is your baby and your job to decide when he gets a hair cut.
2006-10-16 09:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋