I'm saying a girl lives at home with her mom, is still in middle school, has no job. What is the point of "trying" to have a child? This goes for adults to. Are people so greedy that they will let a child grow up in poverty just so they can be a mom? I don't get that. neither of my daughters were planned and their father and I were NOT trying for them. We had protected sex everytime yet I still got pregnant. Don't get me wrong I love my kids and I don't regret them. They are my world. Even though they weren't planned, we have made the best of everything and get them everything they need and most of what they want. What I'm getting at, is there any good reason for someone to try to concieve when they are broke. What about if they don't have a place to live? How about if they are trying to have a child with someone that is abusive? Aren't these stupid situations to bring a child into?
2006-10-16 08:08:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm not even bashing welfare for once...lol. I have a cousin who's attitude was "I want a baby so I'll have one." She the 15 year old with no job and won't even clean up her own bedroom for Christ's sake.
2006-10-16 08:14:40 · update #1
I totally agree and actually wrote about this before. I don't understand why someone would WANT to get government assistance. I don't understand why someone would WANT to live in a not so nice town. I don't understand why someone would WANT there children to be less fortunate. I had a "mistake" as well--while we weren't using protection--we were still at a point where it was okay if I got pregnant but it wasn't something we TRIED for.
Yes, parenting is fun. Yes, parenting is hard. Yes, parenting has so many rewards you can't even imagine. I think it's greed and low-self esteem for people to have kids when they know they aren't ready. I think it's wrong and very selfish to have them just so they can live a life with less opportunity. It takes about a year to join the military. These people could join then have a child and not have to worry about anything. Seriously I don't understand it!
Money doesn't make people happy--but it sure makes things easier AND more financially comfortable in today's world.
2006-10-16 08:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree! But to a point, if people are in love and aren't starving or living without heat, they should beable to have a baby. Babies don't need much besides food, heat and clothes! All these expensive toys and swings are just luxuries and so are name brand clothes and baby nikes. So, I think ADULTS in a strong relationship who are able to provide, even if it means without $400 cribs and $20 sleepers, they should have a baby. I think anyone under 21 to "try" to get pregnant, especially when no married, not through school, living at home, no job, etc is a dumbass and should be locked up. I see it alot too, my friend is 20 working a temp job, and "tried" to have a baby with a 30 man, who is actually still married....hello!? I had my daughter at 20, yep, I did. But she was very unplanned and ya know how bc is 98% effective...yeah well, that's not 100%! No, I don't regret her, and I wouldn't turn back time to save the world now, but having a baby at 20 was not at the top of my list. I wish women would think about it! No more late nights, or parties, forget name brand clothes (got to buy diapers) and if the dad is a dead beat (like over half are) you're alone. Luckily, my then bf nd now husband was and is amazing. I wish people would think!
2006-10-16 15:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very right but you know it doesn't really matter because no matter what anyone says the world is still full of people who think having a baby fixes everything. I had my daughter when I was almost 18 living at home with mom, it wasn't planned but it happened and we did the best we could. Now 6 years later I am having our second child. We own our house I am a stay at home mom and totally ready for this child. So in the end sometimes child do fix some things they sometimes make you work harder for what they need and focus our lives on them. So look at it in a good light I know it always isn't easy but what can we do?
2006-10-16 15:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by jennys2382 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people aren't thinking about the point. They are just desperate for unconditional love and think that having a baby will make them happy. They are being selfish and not considering what kind of life the child will have.
2006-10-16 15:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, people need to take more responsibility, this is probably the reason there are so many out of control kids around. Having a child is a huge task and is a lifelong commitment.
2006-10-16 15:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋