I get all paranoid thinking that he is going to cheat on me. I then start to accuse him of cheating. He tells me that he is not and that he loves me and would not ever do that to me. Also, whenever another female is in the same room with us or when he goes to work, i get jealous. I dont understand why i am like this?
2006-10-16 08:06:56 · 13 answers · asked by DDee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are far to worried that he will leave you. If someone is going to cheat they are not worthy of you, but if you accuse someone of cheating who is not they will know you dont trust them and might as well cheat,
You have to find other things to do in your life and stop being so clingy, and strong and independent girl is far more interesting and fun than a clingy one. Trust him until he gives you a reason not to.
2006-10-16 08:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by sharing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a girlfriend just like you. I never gave her a reason to think I would ever cheat, in fact I treated her like a goddess and she loved it. Because she couldn't get over her ideas of me cheating, I ended the relationship. I need trust in a relationship, and she wasn't giving that to me. Not to mention she had cheated on me twice in the past.
Unless he's actually given you a reason to be suspicious of it, I'd say you have to work on yourself. Maybe you've been cheated on in the past and you can't get over it. Maybe all the bad things your friends say and the media says about men has you paranoid about it. What ever it is, you should solve your inner issue and get over it and trust him.
Getting a little jeaslous is healthy and shows you really care. I get a little jealous sometimes and my wife likes it, and she gets jeaslous sometimes too, we know we both care about each other. But extreme jealously is dangerous.
This is what I do......I figure, if a girl cheated on me, then the relationship is over, and it was a lie, and so I move on quick. The trust can never be fixed so forget about it no matter how much she cries about having you back. It's non-sense. But if she doesn't, then why worry? Your only giving yourself a heart attack. In fact, don't worry if it does happen either because it just proves that the person you were with was full of it, so move on.
2006-10-16 08:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have insecurities that have nothing to do with him. Sometimes it's also abandonement issues as well. Did a parent leave when you were young? Or do you have insecurities about your appearence? Your weight? Anything like that?
Until you resolve these issues, you'll always get jealous very easily so I would advise you to look into it, maybe see a shrink for a bit and focus on you and what you can do for yourself more than anything else.
2006-10-16 08:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a problem. If you continue be behave like this I will assure you you will not have anything to be jealous about. If you love someone, and is sounds as you do, you have to trust them with no doubts. You may find that thiis will be difficult- but time only will tell. Don't do anything stupid like marriage etc until you know for sure!
2006-10-16 08:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by P/T Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are like this because there is lack of communication in your relationship. I used to be like this too. You need more reassurance from your man and little more self confidence. Its hard to deal with jealousy and emotions like this, take it one day at a time.
2006-10-16 08:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immaturity.
You will grow out of it, just don't commit to a long term relationship until you do.
Peace and Good Luck.
True Love is not jealous.
Peace!
2006-10-16 08:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need something else to think about. He means too much to you in a dependent way. You have to have a life seperate from when you're with him or more of one or whatever.
2006-10-16 08:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Chuglon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are insecure in your relationship and why ? Has he done something that you are not comfortable with? or have you been with someone else who did that to you ? if so get over it new guy new relationship ok?
2006-10-16 08:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u are inscure about your self and need to work on that and then work on trust in ur relationship. u wont be happy in any relationship without trust.
2006-10-16 08:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know either, but my wife is the same way and it gets on my nerves. So keep in mind it is probably getting on his nerves also.
2006-10-16 08:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by ©ubs Fan™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋