I married and my marriage was rocky, we were converted and it became a little more rocky. I've felt that as believers now, a lot of effort has not been made to help because of the whole "divorce is not an option" tactic. I know adultery and death are bibical but doesn't that only apply to believers when they marry? I wasn't a believer when I married. I'm wondering how God views it since I was married before I was a believer. I really had no idea what marriage meant and if I had I would have waited. What do you all think?
2006-10-16 08:05:15 · 10 answers · asked by desired314 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
To unbeliever's, it doesn't matter. Repentance is of no value anyway.
To Believer's, you ask for forgivness. God hates divorce.
God does NOT hate the "divorcee". He hates the "act".
Why? It hurts His people. Hurt can be forgiven. The "act" of "anything" needs no forgivness, for the "act".
Good Q*.
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2006-10-23 06:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would be your purpose for getting a divorce. You have everything that God honors in a marriage. Even if there was adultery, whether before or after you became believers, it is still not always worth letting go. You may find yourself, after your divorce, searching for another believer. Then you may find that he deals with the same issues as your last. Or you may find someone that is perfect, but is not a believer. They will not understand or respect your walk with God, no matter what they say. Longsuffering, Patience, Love, Meekness, are all things that you must have to make a marriage work. And they are characteristics of a good christian. God may be allowing you to go thru what you're going thru to get you to where he wants you to be. Hold on to your faith, in God and your marriage. God will bless you.
2006-10-21 05:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by sugarfoot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you both converted? That's wonderful!
Read this and keep in mind that it's talking about only 1 person being saved. 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 "To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?"
So if an unbeliever is willing to live with a Christian and the Christian is not supposed to divorce them, don't you think it would be best to stay together? Besides that, think of what God can do with your relationship now that you are both walking with Him! Allow Him to work in whatever your difficulties are. Seek Him for help and patience. He will help you if you sincerely ask Him for it.
God hates divorce. You said you would have waited if you had known. What would you have done in that waiting period? Do that now. Also don't be too proud or embarrased to go to counseling.
2006-10-16 08:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by cnm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not be going to hell unless he feels he needs to. However, no sin is pardoned. The destruction of sin is the pardon. The basic rule is this. When the human mind institutes a plan, it is generally a self-destructive initiative, because it did not come from God. Many marriages were made in and of fear of various sorts, and these marriages were not from above, nor did they ever have a pure love. These marriages can't last and divine wisdom doesn't demand of man to perpetuate the conclusion of a false premise. However, to marry again for mortal reasons will only bring even greater suffering, so caution, patience, and obedience to truth are needed to get back on track.
2016-05-22 06:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God put you on this earth to do HIS will, then Why give us FREE will?
The only reason it is in the bible that God views dicorce as a sin is because the bible was written by (dun da dun) A MAN!!!
Look at how much the bible slanders women. Really look.
Doesn't it make sense that a man would put that in the bible, to put fear in the womens heart that if she were to leave him THE BIG POWERFUL MAN GOD would come down in full vengance. Seems a little sexist to me, I'm sorry but my God views man and women with equality, My God is not sexist.
Fact is, the bible was written by MAN, not GOD.
may be the "WORD" of God, but the men that wrote it most likely twisted the words, to favor man.
Oh but it makes so much sense for us (a milenia AFTER the bible was written) to follow it word for word. anything clicking?
I do believe that maybe he might look down on it, but God is BEYOND the thinking proccess of humanity.
So he probably understands the fact that humans make mistakes. Even in marrige. I'm sure the all knowing all loving God will still love you if you presue your own happieness.
what God would want his children living such sadness, when they can change it for the better.
God wants us to be happy, even if it means divorce.
2006-10-16 08:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by danksprite420 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are completely forgiven of all sin at the moment of salvation. Since your marriage failed before you were saved, I don't believe it is held against you. If it were, the statement about God forgiving all sin would be false. And God is not false, so He forgave you.
2006-10-16 08:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by byhisgrace70295 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the truth is God view divorce as a sin read your bible you might understand this it is in the old testament
2006-10-16 08:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never fun to be in a situation to make a decision to divorce or not.
Consider the view from the Scriptures, and contemplate on them, see if they apply and how, and most importantly - PRAY about it.
The Bible does not treat divorce casually. It states that God views as treacherous and hateful the frivolous putting away of one’s mate, perhaps with the motive of taking another spouse. (Malachi 2:13-16) Marriage is a permanent bond. (Matthew 19:6) Many marriages that broke up on trivial grounds could have been saved if partners had been more forgiving.—Matthew 18:21, 22.
At the same time, the Bible allows for divorce and remarriage on one ground—sexual relations outside the marriage. (Matthew 19:9) Therefore, if you learn that your mate has been unfaithful, you have the right to terminate the marriage. Others should not impose their views on you, and it is not the purpose of this article to tell you what to do. In the end, you are the one who will live with the consequences; therefore, you are the one who must decide.—Galatians 6:5.
It's important to identify what your issues actually are.
Once you have identified your problem and determined the improvements you would like to make, look to the Bible for advice. Its principles are timeless, and they really work. (Isaiah 48:17; 2 Timothy 3:17) For example, the Bible encourages you and your spouse to be forgiving. Indeed, the Bible says that “it is beauty . . . to pass over transgression.”—Proverbs 19:11; Ephesians 4:32.
All the best!
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2014-05-17 01:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that it was meant for all. You are both converted and you still think you should divorce???
2006-10-16 08:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by sonflower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But you are in the truth now. So how do you think God feels about it.
2006-10-16 08:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by GraycieLee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋