my beautiful baby girl died last week she was 5 weeks old . her name was april anne knight please keep her in your prayers and me i also have a 18 mo old boy jacob and a 12 yr old boy kenny . would you all pleasse keep us in your prayers and if anyone has any suggestions on how to coupe with this please let us know the only reason im typing this is because they have me on meds i need answers like why why my little girl how do i help my family coupe i just dont know what to do with my self
2006-10-16 07:57:36 · 23 answers · asked by brandiknight2003 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
she died of SIDS
2006-10-16 08:03:34 · update #1
I'm sooo sorry to hear of your loss...I will definitely keeo you and your family in my prayers. Just try to relax and not think about it and remember it's not your fault....these things just happens to us sometimes. Don't blame urself and you'll be okay. Take care! If you need someone to talk to you can always email me at quticity@yahoo.com.
2006-10-16 08:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brandi, I feel sort of out of place answering this question since I have no idea what you are going through right now. However, I want you to know that you and your family are in my prayers and that my deepest sympathies go out to you. You can ask why over and over again and you will never get the answer. Don't blame yourself, this was not your fault. The Lord had a reason for giving you this short amount of time with your daughter, and one day you will know why. Losing a child is the hardest thing a mother can go through and I am so sorry. Look to your other two children, Brandi. As heartwrenching and painful this ordeal is for everyone in your family, you are still a family and you can get through this. God Bless You and your family.
2006-10-18 03:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by brandiwhine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolences to you and your family in your time of berevement. Although you feel confused, you're on the right path to finding your answer, prayer. I'm sure that you had so much planned for your baby girl, but despite our plans, God has His own plan that we usually don't understand until far down the line. Everything that takes place in this world, both good and bad, has been mapped out since the begining of time. God knew long ago the exact date and time that He would send that little angel named April to earth, and also the exact date and time that He would call her home. Everything that takes place in our lives happens for a reason. As painful as this experience is for you and your family, God has planned for a blessing to come from it. The harder the trial, the bigger the blessing. The key to finding your answer is to seek God. I won't lie and tell you that He will give you a specific answer as to why He chose April, or why He chose such an early age to call her home, because He most likely won't. What He can and will do is give you peace in knowing that He made the best decision for everyone involved. God may have been preventing her from being raped at age 10, developing cancer at age 6, being murdered at age 21, etc. He has spared her from having to live here on this hell called earth any longer. She is experiencing peace like no other. Take comfort in that. She will never have to experience the pains of life. We know this in our hearts, but being selfish, the way we were created, we think of how much we will miss our loved ones. That's normal; that's love. No matter how hard it is, you have to find a way to give Him praise anyway. Praise Him in your time of need and He will bring you through. Thank Him that your other two children are healthy and safe; thank Him that you woke up this morning; thank Him for whatever blessing is to come of this painful heartache. I promise you that weeping will only last for a night (God's night isn't 12 hours like ours), joy will come in the morning. Embrace what God has planned for you and your life. Whatever good and great things that will take place as a result of April going home to God, that's where you will find the answer to your question. That's when you'll understand why she was special enough that He chose to use her to complete His mission in your lives. My prayers are definately with you and your family. May God continue to bless and keep you.
2006-10-16 08:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no answers. I lost my daughter to SIDS to. I went to some groups, I took meds, lots of meds. What finally helped me was time. Initially i was angry at the world. I hated everything, I could not put my thoughts together properly. I was in denial. From the books I have read this is all normal. I also think it is normal to not be normal after somthing like that happens. you need to talk about your daughter. It helped me to talk about mine. My biggest fear was of her being forgotten. You will probably never understand. I read alot, tried out sids meetings, they are informative but dont always work for everyone. Give it a shot though. Cry let it out, you need to. Try to be there for your boys. Its hard, becuase i couldnt even take care of myself initially. Time will heal your heart. Know that no matter how bad it is, she is in a wonderfull joyous place. We will learn what took our babies, when we meet Jesus. Lean on your family to help you. You will get through this. I promise. If youd like to email me feel free. I am sorry for your loss, and I hope you can find some solace in prayer.
2006-10-16 18:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by trix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to here what you had to go thorough i have three kids of my own and could not even imagine but i know if i had to deal with something like this i would celebrate there life remember her face the time you did have and you were her mommy you will always be and you have that you will always have the memory of your beautiful baby girl and enjoy your other children and you family be thankful for the lives that are still around you the people that can help you to celebrate your daughters life
2006-10-16 09:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry. As hard as it is going to be please keep focused on your children. Make sure you take care of yourself and that if you feel you can't cope to see help from your husband or medical advice. We don't know why awful things happen especially the lose of a baby. April Anne Knight was a beautiful little baby and cherish your 5 weeks with her. She will always be a part of your family and your heart. God will take care of you.
2006-10-16 09:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am VERY SORRY to hear the bad news... I will definitely keep you in my prayers. God took your baby girl for a reason. He needed her back home (heaven). I know that isn't consoling, but it is the truth. God needs her right now more then anything. It is hard for you as a parent because parents are supposed to go before their children.
Do whatever you feel you need to do get through this. I know you are feeling angry, sad, mad and every other emotions. Let them out the best way you can. God is with you through all of this too... he has not forgotten about you. He knows that you need him more then anything. Continue to count on him for the blessing and the days you did spend with your daughter. This is probably one of the heaviest crosses you will carry throughout your whole life. You will never get over your loss of your baby, but you will eventually learn to deal with it in your daily life.
God chose your daughter to be him and a reason you will never know, but she is watching over you and the rest of your family.
You will be in my prayers...
God Bless You and Your Family....
My Sincere Condolences....
2006-10-16 08:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by DO IT! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to read of your little girl. I will pray for you and your family. You need to remember that you have two other children that need you right now. Everything happens for a reason and although you do not know the reasoning now, you may one day learn. Your baby girl may have been needed up in heaven. Keep your spirits up, be there for your other little ones. Time will heal this sweetheart! Good luck to you.
2006-10-16 08:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. There are no words alone to express what you and your family must be going through. SIDS is still a small mystery in this world. I suggest maybe trying a support group in your community to help you cope.
May you find peace and comfort in the one who gave you life.
2006-10-16 08:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by kalina_ca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Honey, I'm so sorry.
My Friend Lacy's Baby died from the same thing. It was terrible and no words could begin to describe what your going through. Of course I will remember you in my prayers.
Do you have a bible? I find that when my life makes no sense and I'm to the breaking point, I can pick it up and just....open it and find what I'm looking for. Maybe you could start there.
I don't know why these things happen. It doesn't make sense to us. Just know you will see your little angel again one day.
2006-10-16 08:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by hisgirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋