Well me n my boyfriend also babyfather have been dating for a yr and to tell the honest truth i cant really take him anymore it not like he cheating or anything it just that he very immature and inresponsible and i cant be bother to be minding two babies at once and honsetly i really dont feel the same i feel for him before,And to tell the honest truthy i dont mind staying i n contact with him as friends for the baby sake. But personally i prefer to be a independent single mother and bring up my child in a lovely environment. But how d o i break it off with him?
2006-10-16 07:53:13 · 24 answers · asked by lil miss sweetheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop being so selfish. You liked him enough to make a baby with him. He did nothing wrong. You just think he is a baby. Well spank the baby when he's bad. Anyway it sounds like you want someone else. Have you met him yet?
2006-10-16 08:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best here, you say you want to remain friends for your baby's sake, so be firm but honest with him. Tell that although you feel it is important to stay in touch because you have a child together it would not be fair on either of you to continue in the relationship. You said that he was being immature and irrisponsible so ensure that you are firm with him and that he fully understands what you are saying.
How you break it off with him is irrelivant but insure that your baby is not witness to it.
2006-10-16 14:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand completely what youre going through since i was in the same situation. you have to take care of you and your baby and if it's without him in your life then so be it. don't deny him his child though because it's not your baby's fault that he's that way. maybe this will wake him up to be a better person. sometimes two people are better as friends than lovers. just be honest and let him know where you stand. communicate your feelings and remember to talk TO each other and not AT each other. good luck!
2006-10-16 15:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him face to face tell him the truth but don't make him mad or he may take it on your child. .Tell him why you don't wanna be together anymore and you still love him very much. . .I still don't understand how your feelings could change just because he is immautre I think it is best to stay with him for the child because when I was young my parents devorcied and actually well there was a good reason behind that but I would much rather have grown up with both of my parents in the same house
2006-10-16 15:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, Im going through the same things. But just be honest. Babies don't keep men and 1yr isn't really enough time to learn a person. It takes alot of knowing a person in order to be with them. im 33 and married and seperated and now im having that problem with my new friend. you can do bad by yourself. focus on the future of you and your kids. they are forever. Besides, he's not your husband. So live Godly and everything else will fall in place.
2006-10-16 14:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Katrina g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U cant stay unhappy like that. Its not good for u or your child. They feel what u feel. The tention the stress. All of it. U need to siti him down and be open. Tell him how u feel. U cant hide ur feelings forever.. I know it will probably break him to pieces, but i think it is good u want to be on your own and being independent. I am a 26yr old single parent and i love every minute of it.. I answer to no one but me. Girl we dont need men to take care of us we can do all on our own. ITs the men that cant handle being without a woman.. Well Good luck to u....
2006-10-16 14:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him and let him know how you feel. Just because you have a child together doesn't mean to have to be with him forever! Don't waste anymore time with him, anyways you will always have to deal with him because of you baby. Tell him the truth and go on with your life.
2006-10-16 16:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by CR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'd be very difficult to break it off and expect to just be friends with him. It'd be best to be upfront with him and tell him how you feel. He'll either get really upset or accept the end of your relationship. If he's immature, i'd bet on him getting upset. If that's the case, and you choose not to work it out, you'll have to hold your own, make your stance, and leave him.
2006-10-16 15:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by Psylence 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. What you just said? Say that. He can respond in one of two ways. Either he will accept it and move on, or he will try to turn it around as if it was your fault. Either way, you come out on top. Take care, and remember that until you feel good about yourself, no relationship is worth it.
2006-10-16 14:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Collin R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really hard to end up a relationship that deep. But you have to think about your baby because that's very important. Try and talk to him about it. If he agrees stay in touch with him because your baby can pay the consequences. I hope this helps.
2006-10-16 15:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋