I've been in Texas for 4 years and we've hosted our son's birthday parties and most of the major eating hollidays. There are only 3 of us in the imediate family. When we invite his side (they all come together) it makes 19 people.
We've been invited to there house too, it just feels like we hosted more. And there are more of them so the should host more often.
By the way, they've come to all 4 of mty son's birthday party and we aven't been invited to one (of the 9 children's) party.
I hate to feel selfish, I just feel like we're pulling most of the weight.
2006-10-16 07:42:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's your Thanksgiving too - if you want to see them all and cook for them, then do so. Otherwise keep it small. You shouldn't feel obligated to always have everyone. You'll just end up feeling bitter about the holiday and you should be enjoying it. Obviously they do not feel obligated to host.
2006-10-16 07:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by crazzi12000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your being selfish. 19 people is a lot to feed. My suggestion is let them know that you are planning on spending Thanksgiving with just your husband and son; or if that is just out of the question, and they will not host - Tell them you would be more than happy to have everyone over, but that you will only be cooking a turkey and the rest of the family should get together and decide what each will bring - kinda like a pot luck.
2006-10-16 07:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by dani77356 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pulling the weight have them pull some for a change . When they call you this season tell them you are really tired and dont feel like hosting this year could someone else please do it?
See what they say and if they dont want to then host your own dinner and do it for just the 3 and forget about the rest of them.
hopefully you will see where you stand and maybe your husband will see this too. Good Luck and God bless.
2006-10-16 08:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they can come over but only if they all bring something with them - either food, plates, drinks, etc.
Also, stick with paper products for everyone. Plates, cups, forks, knives, etc...
Then, when their 9 kids are done eating, make sure they pick up after themselves.
This makes hosting much easier.
Of course, if it were me, I'd just not invite them. But it sounds like you think you should for your husband.
2006-10-16 07:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by jwb674 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being selfish. I would suggest including them in the meal planning. Suggest what they can bring to make the feast a great and memorable one. If they object to it then kindly suggest to them that the others are helping out and it would help you out as well not to carry the burden. Discuss it over with your husband and allow him to approach the situation as well.
2006-10-16 08:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by bobbiericky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call them up and invite them...tell them the only thing your are cooking is the turkey and that it will be "fun" if everybody brings their favorite side dish....or you can assign each one a dish or two. You can pull it off if the tone of your voice is playful and "fun". If they get mad and don't come - Gee, that's too bad.
2006-10-16 08:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely!
2006-10-16 07:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there isn't besides to tell her to not come. i know you opt for time with your loved ones even though it would not look like it quite is going to ensue. how could you sense in case you have been in her shoes? to not stable, top. for the reason which you have instructed her she could be sitting with the toddlers, bypass away it at that and enable or not it quite is her own determination or your going to finally end up having issues from here on out.
2016-11-23 14:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋