80% of the time i am locked in my room. i live in a house full of noisy people i dislike so i stay here in my room. i only leave to work out and go to my college classes, other than that i have nothing to do. all my friends left after graduating high school so i cant visit any one. also my towon is only 12000 people and there is really nothing to do for thoes out of high school but not oldenough to go to the bars. any ideas? i am sick and tired of videogames, looking at porn is is tyuning me away from sex, and some one stole my haybales so i cant pratice with my bow. gas is expensive so cant drive around, and all 5 jobs i have applied for never turned up...i think i have a problem...so can staying in one place be harmfull to the mind? any ideas? sorry if i sound like i am whining, i am reallly not trying too. so yeah...
2006-10-16 07:40:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
CGCC tore down the dorm to make way for the new nursing building, so i really dont know what they are doing for students so far as housing.
2006-10-16 07:47:17 · update #1
It isn't always good to just be in a room too much of the time, but it doesn't have to necessarily be bad for you either.
If you're going to college then your situation for now is just temporary. Things are often not the way people would prefer them to be while they're in college. People who live in the dorms may be unhappy with something about that. People who share apartments may be as well. Sometimes students struggle to eat while in college.
If you go out to work out that's good for both your mind and body. Just because jobs you have applied for haven't worked out it doesn't mean you won't eventually find a job, which would give you a little more money, which would make it a little more possible for you to go out more. In other words, your present situation isn't great, but it doesn't have to amount to being all that unhealthy. People live in crummy circumstances for periods of time. The trick is to find ways to kill the time that make you feel better rather than worse.
I can see how videogames may have their attraction to some people, but I can imagine (although I'm no expert) how they could become very energy-sucking and "non-life-feeling" if someone plays them too often. If people have limited means or limited transporation or limited space, there is something very important about making sure they get some some, plenty of fresh air, and some time out and away from their dull environment. Even a short work outside can help break everything up - particularly on a really nice day or evening.
Something else that can turn alone time into a more positive experience is if you can find a subject that interests you and just study up on it, think about it, etc. Another thing that can make someone feel better is to find things to write about. Keep a journal, write essays, write letters to the editor about things you care about, write lists of things to do or lists of things you'd like to buy or any list you can think of. Write to some of your friends. Write fiction if you're at all inclined to do that. Stepping outside of your present situation and looking at it objectively as a learning experience can give you things to write about as well.
You could devote at least part of the day to organizing things, whether that's in your room or on your computer. Clean out old stuff or files, re-organize how things are, change the wallpaper or create your own.
If you have a couple of dollars find some place where you can get a cup of coffee, tea or chai. If there's a place with somewhere to sit outside in the fresh air go there, get your drink, and take a long time to drink it. If you can afford a biscotti with it get one. Its a very small thing to do, but it can break up your day. If there's a place where you can kill an hour or so it can become your "time for just me" thing.
If you sleep, go to school, do any studies for school, and work out; you have at least some of your day taken up. For the remaining chunks of time you have if you break up some of those with some new activities (even if you don't like my ideas about think up something new, even it seems like its a silly thing to do - make clay things, draw, build something, paint something, rake something, clean something, etc.) it should get you away from the monotony of just sitting at the computer and having the life sucked out of you and your eyes getting unaccumstomed to anything by monitor light.
You're young. Things aren't the way people like they when they're young. You just have to get through another little while before things start to get better in your life. You may want to try to find something at least a little likeable about whoever it is you live with and at least give them a little of your time as part of breaking up your present non-school hours.
(I think its kind of good that you've noticed that looking at porn is making you turn on sex. What you have discovered is what many people don't discover, and that is that there are so many aspects about viewing porn that go against what humans really are it can be destructive to a person's outlook for any number of reasons. Watching too much porn is the thing that is far more "bad for your mind" than the reality of not having places to go; and too many videogames probably have the potential of running a close second when it comes to that.
When your life is such that it is "just you and your mind", you need to find things that will be positive, spirit-nurturing, intellectually challenging, and that give you some contact with the world (even if its just the sun and fresh air) and make you feel a little, tiny, bit, better. Small bits of pleasure add up to a better overall picture.
You're young Hang in there. You will not go insane in the long run, even if you sometimes feel you may right now :)
2006-10-16 08:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah but we have all been there.
Theres always tomorrow? I know that is pitifully lame but hope for a better tomorrow can keep you going. If the world defeats your eternal soul without even lifting a finger (wars,famine , pestilence, and what was that 4th horseman again), then all those genes that your ancestors have passed down to you wont have a chance in this generation.
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Read this quote from Tolkien
The tragedy of the great defeat in Time remains bitter for a while, but in the end it ceases to be important. It isn't a defeat, because the end of the world is part of the Creator's design: the Judge who stands above the mortal world. Beyond it lies the possibility of eternal victory (or of eternal defeat), and the true battle is between the soul and her adversaries.
-- JRR Tolkien
2006-10-16 07:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think isolation can be bad, but also productive if you find something to focus on... have you tried meditation? that could be a very productive use of your time. Other than that I really think you need to get out of your house even if you just go and hike or something for a while. Could you live at the college dorm? Seems like you need some people in your life.
2006-10-16 07:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by uke9999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I see here are negative thoughts... what a waste of time... doesn't do much for you, does it? When you get tired of this trend of thoughts, perhaps you can redirect your mind into something a bit more constructive..There are goals you should be establishing for yourself. All you appear to be interested in is finding something pleasurable and fun.. Is time for getting into studies and relating them to your future. Be a bit more creative with your mind and you may find some challenges there which can actually change your life and its direction.
2006-10-16 08:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't. Your situation isn't unusual. And it can suck. It's got nothing to do with you. Remember that.
2006-10-16 07:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about answering questions instead of asking them (good exercise)
2006-10-16 07:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by larryclay2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋