is this true?

Question

the other day i had to babysit a 7 month old baby and a 4 year old and i have always been told that how ever u react towards other children is usually how u r going to react with yours..is this true? and my bf says that i am really great with the kids....... he saw me interacting with them the other day and he enjoys watching me interact with them....i dont think im gonna make a great mother and i know i shouldnt be talking about that this soon into my life but im curious as to if what i have heard is true or not......

Answer 1

I don't know if it's true with everyone, but if you have a natural motherly-type instinct with other children then you will probably have a greater one with your own.

Answer 2

I think it is true to some degree. If you like spending time with children now you probably will be a good mother. But I also think that when you have children you will be amazed at how much you love them, so if you don't really enjoy babysitting, that doesn't mean you won't be a good mom. It sounds like you are not ready to be a mother yet, and that's ok. You didn't mention your age, but do not let your bf talk you into anything you are not ready for. Kids are a huge responsibility. When he talks about what a great mother you'll be take it as a compliment and be sure he knows that that is something you'll think about in the future, but not now.

Answer 3

If you react poorly with other people's children, that is a bad sign. Being able to tolerate other people's children is fine, but it is always for a short time and when babysitting you are being paid. When they are your own little monsters and you can not escape them; when you, in fact, feel trapped by them, that is an entirely different story. If you do not feel you are ready to have children, then you are not. A colicky baby equals a sleepless night, it takes a lot of love and patience to survive. On the other hand, the fact that you are concerned is a good sign. The tone of your question hints that you will be a very good mother. Now the trick is to find a very good potential father.
The more support you have from family and friends the easier it is. That said, my wife and I managed three children with no family within 200 miles and only work friends. We survived, they survived, you will survive.

Answer 4

I don't think it always means anything. I never had this love of all small children or anything, couldn't interact well with them. But I have two little boys who I just adore, and with them, I'm comfortable and (I think) a pretty good mom. I'm honest enough, though, to admit that with other kids, I don't do a very good job (lots of people suggest that in order to get a babysitter, we should trade off kids on weekends.... I honestly don't think it's worth it.)

If you have always loved children and get along with them, I think it's a good sign that you'll be a good mother, but not always, and if you don't get on with kids all that great, it doesn't always mean you'll be a bad mother.

When it's your own children, that changes everything.

Answer 5

WELL i wouldnt say its true because you have to be nice to other peoples kids unless they are just out right disobediant but when you have a child of your own thats love (infinate love) your in love with your baby before the baby even comes out of you some people are great parents even if they are to young for kids or dont know how to deal with kids but jus think of it as someone to call your own a precious gift because before the baby is born your thinkin and planning on what games to play with your baby or how to make the baby smile your planning for things that dont come until the baby is waaay older trust me if your good with other peoples kids then your goin to be waaaay better with yours

Answer 6

I dont think so... I was a great babysitter lets face it when they are someone elses they go home at the end of the day :) but I feel like a failer as a mother its tough!!!! but then again when my kids to aomething really cute I am way more into that then I ever was when someone elses kid did something cute

Answer 7

Yes. My husband, when we were dating, would love to play with kids and take care of them. He turned out to be a wonderful husband. However, babysitting and having kids of your own are entirely two different situations. Babysitting you get paid for it and you eventually get to leave; whereas, having a baby, you don't get paid, and you hardly ever get to getaway. I love being a mom and have a great family who helps me get away at times but you are right that you shouldn't be talking about kids when you're so young. I had my daughter when I was 26 and I felt that was a good age for me.

Answer 8

No it is never the same with other peoples children as when they put your baby in your arms for the first time. It changes your life forever. Remember take your time you have the rest of your life to become a mother.

Answer 9

I don't know. I've never thought of myself as good with kids. I know how to take care of them, but I've never been really good at interacting with them. That was my biggest fear the day after I found out I was pregnant. But, I've been different with my own child. It's easier when it's your own, I'm more likely to talk to her easier without being so self concious like I am around other kids. And I'm better at being goofy and silly with her too. Even after having my own child, I still don't feel comfortable around other kids. But I do ok with mine, thank goodness!

Answer 10

Probably but alot depends on how your own child is. Easy " normal " kids without behavior issues can be easy to be with. If you have alot of patience and great sense of humor you will be okay. You also need a cool even temper.
Kids are alot easier when you can give them back to their parents.

Answer 11

I dont think it is im not so great with kids that arent my own. Just because my own are my own and someone elses kids can get on my nerves glad they go home eventually. I think it depends on the person and the kids