I have not yet my fiancee's family because they live in California and we live in Mississippi. The wedding is in a few months. Should I meet his parents over the phone? Is that so weird?
2006-10-16 07:32:04 · 20 answers · asked by Katie Beth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
in reply to some of the comments, there has been no way (since we've been together) for us to fly to california nor can we go before the wedding. It just cost too much right now. I want to meet them desparately (of course) but the only feasible option right now is to speak with them on the phone.
2006-10-16 07:45:58 · update #1
we only dated for 7 months before getting engaged, and we don't live together...we met in college and he's still got a semester left in school. He's not extreeemely close to his family but he loves them a lot. I've asked him a million questions about them. He only goes out to see them once a year and at the time he went we weren't serious enough for me to fly out there w/ him. So it's a strange situation...like somthing in a movie. Driving to a half way point is a pretty good idea. thanks!
2006-10-16 08:32:05 · update #2
It can be hard to meet someone's parents if you're both from different areas. I think you definitely should talk to them on the phone - especially if this guy's already your fiancee. It might feel kind of awkward because you know you "have" to do it, but just take it one step at time. Maybe the first time have a brief "hello" and maybe talk a little abour yourselves. Then maybe each time, talk to them a little more. Or whenever your fiancee talks to them, maybe have a short conversation with them.
If you're a little scared to do it now, just remember that it's better to have it be a bit awkward now, than to have to deal with it when your wedding's only a few days away. Don't worry - I'm sure won't be too bad.
2006-10-16 07:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by can_u_still_feel_the_butterflies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you and your fiancee been together? I have heard of waiting awhile to meet the parents but geez. I would try to meet them at a half way point. Even if you have to drive to the half way point, maybe they can fly or drive. Try to work something out where you can meet them in person first. Then if you can't find a solution I guess talk to them on the phone; but ask them to come into town early (like a few days before the wedding) so you can have some time with them. I still can't believe you haven't met his parents yet. I met my husband's parents after 4 dates. My friend met her husband's parents after a month of dating. I am curious as to what your fiancee has told you about his parents and his relationship with them.
2006-10-16 08:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I would pick up the phone and introduce myself. Yes, please get know this folks that are going be in your life. That's what a good Mississippi would do. I live here too. Your in-laws would appreciate the effort, and by time the wedding is here, you won't be so nervous, you won't be strangers any longer. Are his parent's on the computer, if you so you could call and send e-mails. That would be great if they were on-line, you could send them pictures of yourself and their son.
I think calling and getting know his folks will be a good beginning for you both. So, why not pick up the phone, and say "Hi, this is your soon to be daughter-in-law." If fiance is at MSU that's were My kids are (my daughter & son-in-law) if you see a cute short blond with a cute dark harded guy that are always holding hands tell them Momma loves them.....Hey what are you waiting for give them a call!
God bless us all...........
2006-10-16 09:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I just got married on Aug 21 & I talk to my mother-in-law at least 3-4 times a week. Prior to that I spoke to hear over the phone from time to time (like when I'd call there & my fiancee wouldn't be there-we didn't live together prior to marriage). She totally despises his exwife & love me :-) We have the same birthday & we are both only children! You will find out that you have more in common than you think! Can't say that it won't be weird but at least you'll have talked to them before you meet. You will feel alot better. In this day in time families live so far apart it is hard to meet face to face. Good luck. Mother in laws are better than people make them out to be.
2006-10-16 08:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to meet in person, but if you can't then over the phone is OK. It's better to do that then have never even spoken to the future in-laws.
The idea of meeting them somewhere 1/2 way is a good option.Oklahoma or something.
2006-10-16 08:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say at least hi over the phone, I can see it being pretty awkward tho, but I think you need to have some form of an ice-breaker before you meet them, considering that you won't be able to until wedding time, and you will have enuf on your mind at that time w/o trying to impress his parents! btw-Im from Mississippi too! Good luck and congrats!
2006-10-16 08:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi well its up to you. There must be a reason why you havent spoken to them and they havent spoken to you. If you will feel better then go for it, but i suppose if they arent really close to your fiancee then they might not want to talk. But its entirely up to you. Its good of you to have the guts to ring them and have a chat. At least they can tell what you are like and you can tell what they are like sort off. But if they are coming to the wedding then you can always talk to them then. As how come they havent made an effort to ring you both.
2006-10-16 09:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is worse not speaking to them at all. I understand what you are saying that since you haven't met them that it may seem wrong to be introduced over the phone but it is ok. Talk to them when they call so they can get to know you so when you are face to face you're not going to be as nervous. Good luck
2006-10-16 07:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Macey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think meeting in person would be far more appropriate. You and your fiance should arrange for a way for the two of you to travel to California to meet. Personally, I would feel like it was very impolite and impersonal to meet your future family via telephone.
2006-10-16 07:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to meet them face to face but if you can't then it is important that you begin speaking with them by phone now. I am sure they have apprehensions about who their son is marrying and they will be put at ease if they could meet you or speak with you.
2006-10-16 07:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋