I don't think i can ever make a girlfriend cause i'm a quiet person, i am always attracted to girls...but i cant even make a friend so i'm sure i can never make any girlfriend. So is it just good for me to give up although i will still keep wanting and wishing?
Oh, i'm a 26 year old male . have no male friends have never had friends except for 5 year old nephew
2006-10-16 07:28:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not so much a question of whether it's healthy as a question of whether it's what you want. If you really feel like you're tired of trying to find a girlfriend, you shouldn't have to. But it is pretty sad that you claim to have never had any friends. You should find some way to be more assertive and social. There are classes for that.
2006-10-16 07:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very introverted and inward turned person. You could take stock of things you like to do and just enjoy living your life. Just remember, people won't a;ways come to you, sometimes you need to make the first move and all else seems to follow in order. Don't fear the word no, it's just a word and can't hurt you, loneliness will do far more harm than a small word. Live life find fun, go on a trip, do something daring(for you ). Good luck, now live!
2006-10-16 07:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by ron k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a former shy person I say its not completely healthy to give up in the love department. I will say that get some hobbies to get you out of the "comfort zone. " Take college courses and strike up conversations with your classmates or possibly go on group trips just to meet friends. The more you experience life and enjoy your surrounding eventually someone will be able to fit in your circle.
2006-10-16 07:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're giving up on life or at least the people aspect of it. You just need to get over some of your fears. It's ok to be a quiet person, but sometimes you need to talk. You should start trying to make friends. Also, try having a more positive outlook on yourself and life.
2006-10-16 07:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude thats the saddest **** I've ever heard. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and surround yourself with people who are like you. What are you into? Are you a gamer? A bookworm? An athlete? Hang out with people who enjoy the same things you do. You will make friends that way. The more friends you have the more likely you are to get a girlfriend.
2006-10-16 07:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by ks_stud_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no give up on love is not healthy, i used to be shy and had times when i had no Friends but i started to go out see what the world had to offer and my shyness disappeared by time and now i have many Friends and even a boyfriend. so go out have fun and the Friends and girlfriends will follow but u have to do the first step, I'm Maltese and we have a saying that's don't except things to fall in your mouth get out there and get what u want .
2006-10-16 07:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest not much of what I you said is healthy. Everybody needs at least one friend. Maybe you should start going out by yourself (I know it is a dreaded thought) and meet people. A fear of rejection is usually what makes people decide to be quiet. For one night put your fears aside and step outside of your shell. If you make a good friend (or maybe something more) then great! If not at least you know that you tried. Think about Friday nights, I do not know what you usually do, but wouldn't it be nice to have plans... maybe even a date. Try for one night and see what comes of it. Good Luck!
2006-10-16 07:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,
You need to work on yourself first. You have to learn how to love yourself before other people can love you. Not talking about being narcissistic or vain. but at the very least you need to what you're good at, what you suck at, what you love and what you hate. then get involved in doing stuff you love doing and are even good at doing. even better, get paid doing it. then when you meet people who have the same interests, passions and/or talents, you'll have more to talk about, more to share, more to be friendly about. once you start having friends, then you might have a chance at meeting someone who you might get more deeply involved with.
2006-10-16 07:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by dockao1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe there are some extenuating circumstances...I think maybe you should get some therapy from a professional and a life coach who can work to help you get out of being so shy and deal with whatever has caused you to be so introverted.
2006-10-16 07:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go where the girls are, go to church, go to country dances, learn to dance and the girls will find you. Join online dating sites and meet people.
Go back to school take social course such as speech, debating ect.
2006-10-16 07:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋