i have tried to get women many times and most wont date me, and if they do, they end up ending the relationship because they say i am too quiet. i do every thing they want, tell them what they want to hear, but still they *** say i dont talk enough. do women normaly not like quiet guys? i am very active, and will do any thing, i just dont talk very much, is that really so bad? how do i talk more to make them happy?
2006-10-16 07:22:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just hang in there. I didn't get married / a serious relationship until I was 30. Someone will enjoy you for who you are - don't try to be someone else.
2006-10-16 07:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Scotsman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women consider communication a cornerstone in a any relationship so when you aren't communicating it raises a red flag. If you can't talk about things now, how will you work through things if the relationship does get serious? Mentally healthy women take this into account and also do not just want you to say what they want to hear, they want the truth. All in all, if that's who you are, you should just keep trying to find a mate who's okay with that. But you will need to be willing to talk when there are issues, no matter how quiet you are naturally. Good luck!
2006-10-16 14:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do I read a post every day from some quiet guy complaining that women reject him? I think you are all too focused on the result: a date, sex, whatever and are not taking the time to speak up and get to know the girl. Ask questions about her interests, her goals, her friends, her favorite things to do, etc. Maybe you are choosing the wrong types for you. Have you tried asking out a quiet girl? Maybe you need someone to hang out with who also isn't into the chit-chat.
2006-10-16 14:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by Signilda 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What "women" want is a much overrated subject . After all, what you really want is to find a nice WOMAN who likes
one particular quiet guy- you. She's out there, but maybe you are looking in the wrong places. Try the library or maybe yoga class or a hiking club. Be yourself and don't try to mold yourself into another one of the generic, small-talking
hoi polloi. If you want to be better at conversation, though, start by really listening to what she is saying, then adding your opinion or input. In this way you will let her know you value what she is saying.
2006-10-16 14:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because even though some women say if the guys just do what they say, then everything will be alright, that is not entirely true. We need someone who has a voice, and different opinions. It gives the relationship life, because if you just go along with everything, then the girl might as well be dating hereself. Plus we need feedback. You have to tell us what you like what you dont like so WE know that we are doing something right. We
2006-10-16 14:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Love song!! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not a bad thing. Some people feel that if ur quiet it means you have no personality. Many are uncomfortable with silence. I don't see what the big deal is. If the women you were with can't handle something so minor; they weren't worth it to begin with. Don't worry. You'll meet someone who will like u for who you really are.
2006-10-16 14:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by Aidge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it's true many girls don't dig the quiet guys, there are some that do. Some girls feel it's a challenge to open up the guy they're dating, however, that can be very rare.
You just have to be yourself and figure out how to show yourself to them without fear of their judgement. Some things you can try to reduce your shyness.
-Conquer your fears and dare yourself to get into social situations.
-Say hi to random people
-Approach less attractive women for practice, until you feel comfortable enough to approach attractive women
-Find interesting jokes, current events, etc. and branch it to conversations..
You can look at conversations like a big tree. One thing can branch of another thing that you relate to or you can ask her. Be creative.
2006-10-16 14:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by Psylence 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nobody likes quiet men. Im a guy and im trying to be a social person. I like to do much things. Women loves the men like a funny person. But not only women, everybody dont likes quiet person. Quiet person is a Dangerouse person...
2006-10-16 14:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by spider_m_an 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For some inexplicable reason, most women seem to prefer the "bad boy" type, especially the brash, egotistical kind. I don't understand that, especially because those men usually treat women poorly. It's one of life's great mysteries, I guess.
2006-10-16 14:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I love quiet guys, I married one and we're so happy. The trick is to find a girl that can carry a conversation. She has to be able to ask the right questions to get you to talk. I grew up with a very quiet father so I know how to do this. She doesn't have to be overly talkative, just a smart conversationalist.
2006-10-16 14:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your going for the wrong kind of women. my husband and I have been together for 10 years and getting him to talk is like pulling teeth, but me on the other hand-I can talk all day. You need to find a lady that wants to talk and talk. I'm sure from a guys perspective it's annoying, but it's either that or be lonely!
2006-10-16 14:25:40 · answer #11 · answered by April J 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋