my boyfriend and i (hu are both virgins) are having sex soon ??

Question

i decided recently that i'm ready to have sex with my boyfiend of 6 mths i no i love him and he loves me !! i want our first time to be really special we hav booked into a hotel for the night but i want tips to meke the night even more special !!! (i'm 16 and he is 17)

p.s i'm on the pill

Answer 1

Well i arent going to say to wait cos youll only do what u want to do, i lost my virginity at 14 and a lot of people would say that was too young but i dont regret it, id been dating him for a year and we were together for another 3 years after that! Were still friend and he was and still is my one true love even tho were both moved on an i am left with some wonderful memories and when ur both inexperiened you teach each other and its a lovely start to sexual relationships. Just make sure ur relaxed, scented candles are very sensual and mood setting (but they are a fire hazard so be careful and dont get too carried away and forget about them) some music aswell should help relax and ease the tension. Just remember to take precautions, worrying about been pregnant afterwards would completely ruin your experience, and if your mature enough to have sex, your mature enough to take precautions xx Good luck and be happy xx wish i was your age again

Answer 2

geez there are some puritan's on this site. If the girl says she is ready who are you all to judge that with the little knowledge you have about her. if spelling was a precondition then most adults would still be a virgin.

I suggest lots of candles to create a good mood. If you can afford it get a place with a jacuzzi bath you can both enjoy. Make sure you have plenty of time and dont feel you have to leave by a certain time. Sit down relax when you arrive, spend some time talking, start with slow massage. You both should be honest and talk to each other throughout - what you like and dont like. Relax and enjoy :-D

Answer 3

My first suggestion would be to disreagard what most of the people on here are saying. Sure, sex is special, but it aint that special, and 16 is a good time to start imo. Its the legal age here in the UK anyway (dont know about wherever you/ others live).

It will, however, not be very nice, espesically for you, the girl. It will hurt probably so make sure you do the foreplay lots, and use lube too (it may be icky, but it will help, so i'm told by my gf). I can understand it may be difficult to get time alone in either of your houses, but if you can do that... hotel rooms are as someone said, a little impersonal. On the otherhand, you dont have to worry about either of you making a mess... (and yes girls can make a mess too).

and make sure theres plenty of time to spare afterwards, because naked hugs are awesome.

Answer 4

Before you go through with this make sure you are truly ready, because you only get one "first" time. It should be really special, but I don't think a hotel room is something special. However, that is just my opinion. A romantic night is a nice dinner, soft music, and low lights, maybe some candles and flowers. But sex shouldn't be planned it should happen naturally.

Answer 5

By booking a hotel for the night, will make it not happen, it will happen when you are both ready, if you got planning it you will put too much pressure on each other to do it "right" and it will all end up wrong, and could even turn into an argument!!!!!!! Put it blunt he will not be able to get hard and you will not relax enuf and get wet enuf that he can slide in!!!! Sorry to put it like that but the nerves will take over hun and nothing will happen trust me!!!!!!!

Answer 6

wow, 16 and 17? now that is a great age to start being parents! 16, huh? i doubt that you have even had a chance to go to prom yet.... and 6 months...huh? i wonder how much he will love you at 2 a.m. when he's holding your hair back while you are vomiting from morning sickness? i hope your parents really love you too because you are going to want them raising your kid so you can finish school, that's if you are planning on finishing school. the worst thing you could do for your kids is to live off the government, you know, teaching them that it's okay not to be responsible for yourself because you can live off the backs of hard working tax-payers.
i really hope as you are reading this you are not thinking to yourself that 'it won't happen to you'. there is nothing other than abstinance that can gauerntee not getting pregnant, sometimes pills don't work and condoms break. oooo, you could have an abortion! but i think that 16 is an awfully young age to start having life-time regrets because you will think about that child everyday for the rest of your life.
just a little food for thought....

Answer 7

You'll probably do it anyway BUT honestly, 6 months is no time. I don't think the person who said young people can't have serious relationships is right though, I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and I'm 16. Main thing though, seeing as you'll do it anyway is not to worry about stuff, you don't want to end up acting like someone you're not.
;-)

Answer 8

utilising the pill would not assure you will not get pregnant. sometimes the hormone dose isn't top for you, sometimes it takes a pair months to get it working effectively. sometimes (maximum the time) women are actually not waiting to take it on the comparable time known which reasons it to not be as effectual accurately. Use a condom too, because of the fact it will make your opportunities slender as you stated. believe me. I have been given pregnant mutually as utilising the pill and condoms. (our condom broke, so convey backup!) it could harm you, it won't harm him. My first time did not harm me in any respect. there become no blood the two. that may not the norm nevertheless, it quite is common for there to be everywhere from a pair drops of blood, to an considerable quantity. The towel suggestion become a physically powerful concept. i don't see why you're able to opt for new underclothes, you will not have them on once you bleed. in simple terms convey a pad once you're worried, yet opportunities are high you is quite not bleeding by utilising the tip of it too plenty.

Answer 9

Is he forcing you into this? Or is this your decision? Think about what you are doing. Your going to have to live with this decision your entire life. When you turn 30 are you going to look back at this time in your life and regret it? Will you think it was a terrible thing? If yoiu answerr any of these questions with doubt. I would wait. Just because he says he loves you so much and thinks your hot, doesn't mean he is going to marry you. belive me I know I was the same way in high school.

Answer 10

Have the entire place lit by candles. Take a nice, warm, candle lit bath together. Slowly and softly touch each other in there. Then move out to the bed which should have flower pedals all over it. And don't forget the 'i love you's' Those are very important.