I woke up this morning, (the computer is by the bed) and saw my bf was looking at porn. I said, "What are you doing?"
He immediately started closing out the windows, shut off the monitor and ran to the closet. He grabbed atie from the closet then left the room in a hurry.
I laid there for a minute and I knew what he was going to say already.
He came in a few minutes later and laid beside me.
He didn't say anything so I did..
I said, "Why did you get off the computer so quick, and why didn't you answer me when I asked you what you were doing?"
His response was defensive, he said, "I wasn't on the computer, I was in the closet and you didn't say anything to me... "
WTF?? This started a big fight, he told me he couldn't "live like this!"
I knew he was going to say I was just asleep or that I was crazy, but we both know what happened...
Why would he lie about this and turn it into a big fight?
2006-10-16 06:30:41 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's NOT that he was looking at it...
He lied and screamed at me so loud the baby woke up..
I got pissed on this morning JUST FOR WAKING UP!
2006-10-16 06:36:06 · update #1
I am so sorry - so this guy really said he wasn't on the computer but he was in the closet?? What kind of defense to WHAT ARE YOU DOING is that? Oh, I'm not doing anything, I'm in the closet. What a moron.
2006-10-16 06:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Shesha 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi smarie!! :o) I hope you're OK. I know that for a LOT of girls - the idea of their boyfriend/husband looking at porn can be very upsetting. But that's because [most] girls/women think of porn differently than [most] guys think of porn. To most guys - pornography is just about getting turned on. It's NOT about 'falling in love'. But to many girls/women - sex IS love. But for [most] guys - that's just not the case. His looking at porn and/or masturbating without you being their or admiring the beauty of some girl he sees on the street does NOT effect how he feels about YOU. Have a great day!! Craig!! :o)
2016-03-28 11:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay if he is going to lie about little things then he probably would lie about big things you know? So you should be very cautious about this guy do you have your own place where you could live with out him? Cause he sounds like a loser and he could end up hurting you . Dump him cause he wanted to pick a fight so he could leave he probably went to see another girl. just get away from him he sounds like a loser.
2006-10-16 06:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look maybe he feels you are gonna get mad because you caught him watching porn. I dont know how you feel about porn, but personally I dont have a problem with it. If I wake up and find my bf watching porn, chances are the porn is mine. Thing is, some men watch porn. It a visual thing with them. It doesn't mean he he finds you any less sexy.
If you don't have a problem with him looking at porn, well I think its a good time to say so.. He might just open up and talk to you.
Good luck!!
2006-10-16 06:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Obsidian butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2006-10-17 18:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most women don't like porn. I asked women several times what the deal was with porn not one could give me a logical explanation most answers were" it's degrading", "it exploits women" or "because I just don't like it". As guys socity has placed a big Emphasis on sex for us. The best thing for you to do would to be watching porn when your husband comes home and ask him to watch it with you.
Trust me he'll be so nervous that he won't be able to get arroused. So help him out and show him that it's ok and you understand.
2006-10-16 06:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You guys need to talk. Be honest about your expectations in a relationship. If he likes porn and you don't then loose him. If that's part of his sexuality and you care about him then forget it and don't judge. In a secure and mature relationship a man should feel safe enough to show/tell you who he is without worrying about your response..the fact that he didn't go into another room to go on line for whatever should tell you something. and the fact that he lied should tell you something too and the fact that he was pursuing additional sexuality on line should say something about your relationship. My mothers advise to me on my wedding day was "Aways be a lady but never be a lady in bed" perhaps a look into your intimacy together should give you an insight of yourself as a partner....what part did you play that he had to look to the computer for additional????
2006-10-16 06:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by redqueentx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple: Guilt.
The question is why do you care if he looks at porn. You should make it a positve statement when talking to him about porn. Just say this from now on, "if your going to look at porn, then when you get hard, you have to promise to use it on me".
This will benifit you more than getting mad at him, for doing what all guys do.
Only several things are fun to guys.
They are as follows.
1.Beer
2.Watching porn, seeing boobs, etc.
3.Guns, hunting,fishing, sports
4.Having sex, masterbation, two chicks at the same time.
5. A girlfriend/wife who is the most understanding person in his world, makes all of his world better.
2006-10-16 06:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess he is a pedifile and does not want you to know. J/K Well, I think the impression that he gets out of it was that he perceive it that you do not like for him to look at porn. As a result, he tried to hide it from you that he is horney. Maybe you are not a very attractive person and he needs to look at porn to turn on. Anyway, you get the point. Just be sensitive to his need and maybe you both can look at porn together.......
2006-10-16 06:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by revolou 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why are u effing with him about porno and making his insecure *** lash out and fight with you? why are you asking him what he's doing when you already know? He should of just been matter of fact with you about it that can be a weird response. I remember once at college I went to this girls dorm to hang out with her and smoke some weed and when I walked in there was a porno playing. It really freaked me out cuz of how out of place it was-i mean i just met the girl. anyway he should of just responded matter-of-factly and shut you up.
2006-10-16 06:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋