Why is my Mom so distant to my kids? My mom recently moved to our state with my older sister and her kids... At first my kids were very excited because they never had a grandparent figure in their lives.. (My dad died before I got married,and my husband's parents are overseas)My mom also lived overseas before she came to U.S.A to live with my sister..she adores her kids,brags about her other granchildren overseas, and is extremely distant to mine..I've spoken to her about it. My little girls are honor students, extrmely humble and have quite a low self esteem as a result of all of this.I try hide it from them.. but they still feel it I buy gifts for them and pretend they're from grandma..My problem is quite unique..I don't talk about it to other people . What should I do?
2006-10-16 06:22:25 · 4 answers · asked by Scuhbby 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
maybe she thinks that your children are so loved and that your sister's children really needs your mother's love because she might be the best parent. Your question is just like my story. My mom never sees my children and gives my sister's children more attention, but my mom told me because I'm such a good mother and my sister is such a bad mother and that the children need a lot of love since they don't get it from their mother at all. If it is not that situation, then your mother is so unlucky to not be in the children's life. My mother's family lives in Spain so I never saw my grandparents, and my grandfather lives in Indiana, and I never see him or when I was growing up. Your children have or need to learn how to cope with this. All they need is your love, no matter how bad it hurts you.
2006-10-16 09:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe because she lives with your sisters kids and was able to see her overseas grandchildren while she lived there while she doesnt KNOW your children yet at least not quite as well as the others???? does she have a stronger bond with your siblings then she does with you? that could also be a reason
2006-10-16 13:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, she really does not know them....and it may make her uncomfortable too. Try to get them together w/ activities you can all do together a couple of times @ month...then more fequent as they get to know each other. She is your mom, ask her what is up again and again til you get an answer...is she distant to you also?.
2006-10-16 13:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by AQHA34 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did your mom say when you spoke to her about it?
2006-10-16 13:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋