I am in love with my best friend, but she's going out with someone already. Should I ask her out while she's still going out with him and see if she will choose me over her boyfriend or wait for them to break up (if they ever will...)
2006-10-16 06:17:48 · 16 answers · asked by tigert92 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please note that i am only in 9th grade
2006-10-16 06:37:04 · update #1
Do the right thing. She is already in a relationship. Leave her alone.
2006-10-16 06:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any actions are taken, please just wait until her relationship is over (if it does end). But you should be aware that dating changes friendships, and if the two of you didn't work out, the friendship may never be the same. There will be this awkward and uncomfortable silence and it just won't be the same. I would think twice about saying anything to her. How does she feel about you? Ask someone, not a close girlfriend of hers, because it will get back to her that you inquired, to get the info- but discreetly, ya know? Good luck!
2006-10-16 13:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell her anything. While that would make you feel better, it would make her uncomfortable.
If you want to tell her, yes, wait until they are broken up. Keep in mind, of course, there is every possibility that they never will.
In the meantime, definitely ask out other people - you don't have to get too involved if you don't want to, but you should play the field if for no other reason than to keep from going insane waiting for this girl.
2006-10-16 13:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have they been going out? Is she in love with her boyfriend? You are taking a big risk in telling her how you feel, but if you don't, you might regret it the rest of your life. Wouldn't you rather try and put your heart at ease, OR leave her be and stay her friend, through out subtle hints
2006-10-16 13:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by Shy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Dont get involved right now! Wait! Because what goes around comes around, so if she did leave him to be with you then you would have to watch her and her other male friends at all times. She's your bestfriend so you'll be around after the boyfriend. So just get to know her better, so when the time is right ya'll will be closer.
2006-10-16 13:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's likely best to wait until she's not involved with someone. She may get upset with you for bringing it up to her now. If it's more than a month or so, it's best to think about moving on. This isn't something u want to dwell on forever.
2006-10-16 13:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Psylence 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling you have many years ahead of you and I am sure they will break up eventually. Don't risk ruining your friendship, just give it time. I have always be told that everything happens for a reason, keep that in mind. Good luck!!
2006-10-16 13:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your best friend in love with her boyfriend. If she is, I wouldn't advise you to confess your feelings to her. Believe me things will never be the same between you and your best friend if you tell her how you feel. She might feel awkward after if you confess your love. If I were you I would start dating so you can forget about your best friend.
2006-10-16 13:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Yessenia A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the kill my friend. seek your love one and fight to the end. if things don't turn out the way you would like it to, at least you know you tried your best and move on. you don't want to sit and look back when you are 40 years old and ask yourself, "what if........"
2006-10-16 13:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by revolou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back off and let them have there space. If they happen to break up then you might have a chance,,,but I wouldn't bank on it for sure.
2006-10-16 13:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋