my bf/husband watches porn and it makes me feel bad/sad/degraded...............
i say so what? i enjoy watching it-preferably with a partner-but anyway, its called sexual stimulation. How many other women like porn??
cause i am sick of the women that get so worked up over it.
And for strip clubs-i go once a year and have a blast-wouldn't mind bf going to that either, can cheat anywhere-if thats your fear.
2006-10-16 06:17:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ditto -- i agree with u 100%
usually it is the women who are insecure who have the problem
2006-10-16 06:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is not a matter of cheating when it comes to strip clubs. I just dont see any reason for my man to go sit and watch naked girls dancing around. What kind of sh*t is that ?? How many men would be ok with their wives stopping off after work at a male strip joint with their female friends for a few drinks before they got home ?? I think the # would be extremely low if any. There just is no good reason to do it. As far as porn goes, its ok to watch with your partner but I dont understand watching it all day long. Something is sick and twisted with that. How many naked girls does one man need to see on the web in one f*cking day ?? Come on, the whole thing is totally out of control.
2006-10-16 13:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what the big deal about strip clubs is all about. That's an industry that is still unfortunatly controlled and dominated by men who deffinatly abuse the women in such establishments... Some places are worst than others (obviously) but it still predominantly a male-dominated buisness.
P*rn used to be the same, however the industry has changed immensily since the 90s. To make a long story short, most women in the p*rn biz dictate their own contracts and descide what they do or don't do on camera. Forced rape at gunpoint for the camera is a long way back and hopefully a thing of the past.
The problem with p*rn is that is still is a product aimed at a specific crowd; males... and specific males at that. So although there's a MASSIVE amount of product out there, variety lacks incredibly.
I don't usually get why men "need" p*rn... I think it's because of its easy availability through the internet which has caused this increase in p*rn consumption.
I myself like to wacth some p*rn either by myself (so solo purposes) or with my hubby. Luckilly, our tastes in that domain are somewhat similar, although he has a few odd quirks and fetishes which I don't share...
P*rn is an addiction for many males especially since it has become so easilly available through the net...
2006-10-16 14:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by ButtahChick (ButterChick) 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm all for watching porn as a sexual stimulation. My fiance doesn't like to watch it, but every now and then he'll watch it with me...what happens next, a lady never tells.
Women shouldn't feel degraded about porn. Those that do have other insecurity issues.
2006-10-16 13:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by analystdevil 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I love porn ... never had a problem with and it really gets my blood flowing ... I think women are sexy and gorgeous ... I'm usually the one asking to go to the Strip Clubs ... lol ... my BF would rather have me by his side then a group of horny guys ... by the time we leave the strip club we're both so hot for each other we can't help but to satisfy our needs before the ride home ... lol ... !
Women are just too insecure, jealous & close-minded when it comes to other women in their mans life .... even if it's just a stripper on stage ... or a porn star on t.v. ... !
2006-10-16 13:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I fought about this during the first month of our marriage. I felt ignored & betrayed and he felt it was no big deal. I won in the end. I told him this: "You can either have me or the porn. You can't have both. And as long as this is my home, too, I will not allow this! If you want to see naked ladies, here, you see one right now! You want to see people having sex? Let's put a mirror next to the bed. But I will not have you watching other women while I am RIGHT HERE!" And he never looked at porn again.
2006-10-16 13:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Avie 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You guys need to talk to each other; it sounds like you expect your husband to wean himself off porn while you go to a strip club once a year.
That's probably why he won't quit using porn. I would suggest going to this site so that the both of you can get help. It has a free accountability software that blocks porno sites as well as spiritual help to free yourself from sinful bondage.
2006-10-16 13:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't find it a big deal..but most of the issues stem from the woman being insecure..whether that be from not trusting her significant other etc..
Some women also just don't see the point of looking at pornography if you're satisfied with them. Again...all going back to the insecurity issue.
2006-10-16 13:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by michellewho11582 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
women don't like watching porn because the guys in the video have great big ones and their husbands don't. so rather than be dissapointed they try to get him to stop watching it. either that or they are all prudes.
2006-10-16 13:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't like the fact that he's looking at porn and he's in a relationship, that's not being very loyal to you
2006-10-16 13:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋