If you feel your boyfriend or girlfriend is lying to you, do you have the right to snoop in their email, mail, cell phone etc to find the truth. Are you justified if you find out they have been lying to you??? Is it okay to protect yourself, when you have talked to them, and they deny any accusations, but you find out they have lied??? Is it ever okay to lie (you know those "innocent" little white lies ie. he may not be cheating on you but he says he hasn't talked to some girl, which is a lie~they just emailed or talked to each other on the phone, while it seems innocent he/she is lying so as not to upset the other person.
2006-10-16 06:05:06 · 8 answers · asked by fancyfree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can snoop a little because you need to also protect yourself from the lying that is going on. If you feel there is lying and cheating going on - that's because there probably is. If you can't trust someone anymore - then you need to get out of the relationship.
A little snooping is okay - just don't do anything illegal.
2006-10-16 06:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask all of those questions, you're not in a good relationship. There is something telling you things are not quite right so leave! It's not right to lie about a relationship with someone of the opposite sex. If it was really innocent, they wouldn't feel the need to lie about it. If you have already caught them in a lie, think of how many others you haven't caught yet. Protect yourself and walk away.
2006-10-16 06:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you think you are in a committed relationship then I feel its your right to snoop when you feel something is not right. If you've asked them straight out and feel you've been lied to then you have to do what you have to do. When you feel something is not right it usually isn't. And I dont believe in little white lies. A lie is a lie. He did cheat, he talked to girls online. He doesn't have to have sex for it to be cheating. If your going to snoop and find things then dont make excuses for him like "its little white lies". If your not going to do anything with what you've found then whats the point in checking ?
2006-10-16 06:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have "the right to snoop".
You DO have the right to walk away from a relationship where you can't trust the other person...or if the other person is always telling lies.
Is it ever okay to lie? To someone that you're supposed to trust and who is supposed to trust you? Hmm. Tough question. NOT! No, it's NOT okay to lie. It's dishonest and childish.
2006-10-16 06:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like he is cheating then he probably is. Snoop if ya want to b/c he might never tell you if you don't find out for yourself. I kept a journal of all the crazy crap mine did and he read it b/c I knew he couldn't resist and when he found out I knew what he was doing and WHO then he confessed to me everything. Men are really that stupid sometimes to think we know nothing and that they are "getting away" with it.
2006-10-16 06:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Amber C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing right now..my guy says he is not cheating but his voicemails say somethign else..I say find out any way you can..you have a right to know whether or not he is with someone else..I hate men who lies..gosh just be a man an admit that are you cheating..then we women can decide if we want to stay or go...I really dont know what to say since I need advice myself. good luck
2006-10-16 06:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't invade people's privacy .. but try your best to allways find out the truth
2006-10-16 06:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by df d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invasion of privacy is wrong. But sometimes you have to do what you have to do.
2006-10-16 06:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋