I have been with my guy for about a year and some..in the beginning it was all about lets take it slow, I am not ready let just give it time...I always felt like he was doing something or someone..I have been checking his voicemails for a few months now..I heard two message from two different girls or it might be the same person (not sure). what i gather from the first message is that he had a relationship with her or he still might but doesnt really pay her attention the other girl buys him stuff and I think she may work in the same area as us (my boyfriend and I work in the same building). he tells me that he is not cheating, I am the only one, he is no doing anything wrong (no I did not tell him what I found)
it is hard for me to continue like this when I know for a fact that he might be doing something but don't have enough evidence as yet...
what should I do...HELP
2006-10-16 06:00:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are so unsure of his loyalty, why the hell are you with him? I can't speak for him, but it did happen to me, and until I finally left the relationship, it was pure hell for both of us. I didn't ever one time cheat on her, but I did have female friends longer than I knew her, and she couldn't handle it. And yes, she had male friends, but she couldn't see that she was applying a double standard in the relationship. So, it finally ended........that was the best day of our lives til that point.
2006-10-16 06:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by ron k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience....I've done the same thing. Don't let him know that you have checked his voicemail. Keep that as your "peace of mind" I'm a firm believer of doing unto others. So this is what you should do. however he acts with you, treat him like that. On the other hand, her message was asking him why isn't he giving her attention anymore. So may have left her alone. My question to you is have you talked to him about going to the next level? Marriage? A Serious and Committed relationship? If you don't have hard evidence that he's cheating then don't say anything. take it from me: If you look for something you will find it. It maybe real innocent, but don't be a fool!!!1
2006-10-16 06:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by alphasweet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm infedelity crisis, huh? I used to go thru my old man's voice mail all the time and he never knew. I would delete messages from ppl i didnt want him talking to. Anyways for proof? Are you checking his mail out of paranoia? I checked my ex bf's because I was bored and his password was SOOOOOOOO obvious, that dumb idiot, anyways if you really feel like he is cheating then leave him. Yr not doing yrself any good stressing out and wondering if this girl is seeing him or not. Check for signs of cheating. Does he kiss you the same? Does he look into yr eyes when he makes love to you, to watch yr body or does he shut them( a potential clue that he thinks about the other woman) Does he hold you the same way? I mean there are little things that I used to tell if mine was cheating and they are so subtle. However if a man had the guts to cheat on me he would suffer my jealous wrath! Dont put yrself thru the grief, tho hon. If you suspect, and feel it in yr heart then break it off. Im gonna give you a tip to see into his heart. Here is a spell that will show you the truth. You must put energy into it You cant just mindlessly say the words and expect it to work, ok?
Before you retire to bed, get a piece of paper and fold it in half.
Write on it the answer that you seek to find for example, is he cheating on me?
Focus strongly on the question.
Fold it in half again and draw an eye on the outside.
Say "With dreamer's eyes I wish to see The secret my lover keeps from me."
Repeat over and over until you fall asleep, this opens yr subconscious.
You will dream that night of whats going on.
)0( Blesse be.
2006-10-16 06:17:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly he sounds as if hes definetly doing his dirt im sorry but i cant except the fact he even has other girls calling him and leaving him messages especially if it isnt his mother or sister or even his aunt that doesnt fly well with me all i can tell you is break it off quietly dont call him act as if you dont even know him and when he does come around and TRUST ME HE WILL you tell him listen im sorry but i feel as if you doing certain things behind my back and if i have to feel this way in a relationship with someone who i thought i can trust then you are just not worth my time take care and then you just walk away and DONT LOOK BACK because honestly who wants to be in a realationship when half the time you have to be playing the spying game thats a big waste of your time dont you think so you are worth much more than that girlfriend be safe and be cool you will be fine once you dump that fool .....E
2006-10-16 06:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have trust issues.. Seek help.. You are going to run this man off big time..
2006-10-16 06:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the curb he is making you stoop so low that you are checking his voice messages, whats next, following him, honney get yourself another man... who will share everything with you
2006-10-16 06:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Girly-Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this?
2006-10-16 06:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋