So I've had this friend for about 6 months & finally decided to end it & told him basically it was fun while it lasted and now when I see him which is several times a week he doesn't stop looking at me & sends me text msgs etc..etc..why now?!?! he could've had me anytime he wanted & usually it was when it was convenient for him..We each have someone else & I stand to lose much more if anyone found out..His gf is so whipped so I know he can get it anytime from her and I thought I was doing him a favor by ending it..There is a big age difference between us Im 36 he's 23 so is he just being 23 & stupid??
2006-10-16 05:50:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You ended it, walked away, and found someone else?
He is playing games (either because he is a player, immature, or just plain dumb)- he wants what he can't have, but does not value what he has. That is entirely his problem. The best thing you can do for him is to tell him, end it, cut him off, and go on.
You already know this, though, don't you? So- is there something there YOU want again? It sounds like you are unsure about something- either the ending it, or being thought of as a meanie or something.
DO NOT go the 'friends with benefits' route- you know as well as I do that it will not work- it almost never does, not the way we want it to.
2006-10-16 05:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself. If you're really 36, what in the world are you doing playing around with a 23 year-old, and what else would you expect from him? He's a kid who wants to have the bene's...DUH!! Act like an adult and stop playing along with the games!
2006-10-16 06:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by rwooddvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id have to say yes! After all, if she is so whipped, Id imagine that he thinks, "ok, one is great, but she's not a machine, two would be better" Since it seems you didnt have a problem with it before he figures why would you now. Sigh, select few idiots like him make it so much the harder for the vast majority of genuine guys.
2006-10-16 05:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by jamenkoff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a BIG difference in age but you are the stupid one not him, if you think what is between your legs will get you whatever you want in life and if not it HAS to be the other ones flaws, just can't be you! huh? Wake up and trying to build a foundation before the bedroom. Sorry the truth can be brutal but you asked and I am only ONE opinion.
2006-10-16 06:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by uwantfacts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Looks like you have a serious problem....well i would start with changing your number...that usually give them a big clue...then maybe threaten to tell his girl...if that doesn't help sit him down for a good talk and tell him you want this to end and at the end of that talk DON'T HAVE SEX that just make everything you just talked about Irrelevant
2006-10-16 05:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or he just wants to chance to ruin your life!!! and have the pleasure of dumping yo @ss.
Dont do anything that will affect your relationship with your partner!
Besides 36 is too old to be playing 23 yr olds games ( and you know that ).
2006-10-16 05:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you even have a 'little boy' for a friend? friends w/ benefits is the worst thing mankind ever invented since anchovies. Get yourself a mature guy or something. stop f-ing around with those kinds of dudes.
2006-10-16 05:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by g13player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have done something that left quite an impression on him. You told him it is over, so just ignore his advances and he will eventually forget about it.
(How flattering though that a 23 year-old is tripping all over himself over a woman who is considerably older than him)
2006-10-16 05:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop it. He doesn't care if you have more to lose than he, for him it's just a game. Ignore his calls and text messages. It won't take long for him to get bored and move on.
2006-10-16 05:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is being 23.. he wants as much as he can get, as often as he can get it.
you are being 36.. wanting something more steady.
you two are just at different points in your life.
If you want to continue boinking him.. feel free.. but understand he sees it only for the sex... and if you are good with that... go for it!!!!
2006-10-16 05:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋