I'm a 13-year-old girl(12 but next month I turn 13).My boyfriend(he is 18) asks me for sex.Till now I've been sucking his d*ck a few times and he has touched me and licked me down...but now he asks for sex and I'm a bit scared.My parents don't know about our relationship(and I would NEVER tell them!,so I need you as 'parents' to help me) but I think at 13 I'm too young to lose my virginity.But I love him very much!I think to agree but need advice about protection too(don't wanna get pregnant).Would you please give some advice?
2006-10-16 05:46:26 · 16 answers · asked by samantha_13 s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just so you know, if you get pregnant, or your parents find out, your b/f can and will be charged with statatory rape. Meaning, you are not old enough to give consent.
What this also entails: SEX OFFENDER FOR LIFE. Your b/f will not only go to jail, but he won't be able to live within 1000 ft of a school, park, or shool BUS STOP (which pretty much puts him in the boonies). He won't EVER have a decent job.
So, do you really want all of this bad stuff to happen to him?
2006-10-16 06:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At 13 years old you are way to young to be having sex. Even oral sex especially with an 18 year old. He will go to jail and be labeled a sex offender if any one found out. Are you using protection when you have oral sex? You can get all the same std's from oral sex as you can get from vaginal sex. So if you aren't protecting yourself now you could have something. Do you know that 13-25 is the age group that has hiv and aids more than any other age group? Even more than homosexual men. My advice to you is that you are to young to be having sex especially with an 18 year old male who is probably a lot more experienced than you. Sex is a lot of responsibility and a lot of adults would also tell you it's not always that great and sometimes a hassle. Do you really know this guy loves you? How do you know he's not taking advantage of you? How many other girls has he slept with that he isn't with any more? Does he always practice safe sex? These are just some of the very important questions you need to be asking yourself. It sounds to me like you are confused and unsure of what to do. That should tell you right there that you are not ready for sex. And I will warn you right now that if you tell him no there is a chance he will leave you. That should prove to you that he really doesn't love you because if he did he would wait for you as long as you need him to. Never have sex with a man because your'e scared he will leave. Sex will not keep a man. He can get sex from any where. I hope you do the right thing.
2006-10-16 06:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by scheerbarbara 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are 12 and he is 18. If he has sex with you and your parents do find out, he can go to jail. It is illegal for an adult to have sex with a child, which you are, regardless if you are 12 or 13. You may think you are in love with him, but this is not love, but infatuation. If he loved you, he would not ask you for sex. He is using you and you deserve better. Enjoy being young and wait until you graduate from college before making that major step in your life to loose your virginity. You can only loose it once and you want it to be with the man you marry. Additionally, there is no 100% guaranteed method of birth control except abstinence. If you are in a relationship that your parents do not know about then it is a wrong relationship based on deceit. Break it off with this guy now for your own well-being.
2006-10-16 07:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are only 13 so if your parents find out what you have been doing your boyfriend could go to jail for a very long time . Do you want that ? If you were 18 and he was 25 this would be a very different situation . But you are not . So for the time being please stop any sexual relationship with him . If he loves you he will wait till the time is right . If he does not want to wait he is just using you . So don't let yourself to be so vulnerable because men like this will break your heart .
2006-10-16 07:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sincerely think at 13 you are way too young to be going out with an 18 year old. And he is WAY wrong for going out with a girl so young like yourself. You've got the right feeling - don't do it. You are already putting yourself at risk for diseases with the behavior you already have. You are RIGHT! You are WAY too young to deal with the responsibilities and worries that can come along with sex. Your boyfriend has some serious problems if he is going to someone so young for sex. I don't care if you think you love him - don't do it! If he really loves you, it wouldn't matter to him if you didn't do it. I don't think you have much of a real relationship anyway - I think he is just using you, and you definitely DON'T deserve it! Go have fun with friends and stuff - you don't need to be worrying about a serious relationship right now - you'll have plenty of time for that later!
2006-10-16 05:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to even consider sex. I was 30 when I lost my virginity. It's a long story, but I was molested as a child and that caused me to stay away from men for a long time until I met my husband who is my soulmate.
You need to finish high school, go to college and figure out who you are, and if you find someone SPECIAL along the way that you know loves you as much as you love them, then consider sex.
Right now, a 13 year old cannot give consent for sex, especially with an 18-year old. So, even if you say yes, you are making your boyfriend a criminal. If he's willing to risk facing rape charges for you, he isn't very smart and is just thinking with his lower extremities.
Feel comfortable in saying No, that you are too young and want to wait. If he doesn't respect that, then he needs to move along to other legal-aged "women".
You are just a girl and I would like for you to stay that way at least until you finish with high school.
I am 40 and I had lots of friends in high school that felt pressured to have sex in high school. They regretted the fact that they gave away their virginity to some dork in high school. When they got married, they really wished they could take it all back and give their virginity to their husband, but it was too late.
Lots to think about.
2006-10-16 05:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm a parent. Do you know why we say no to our kids? Because we love them. This would break my heart, more because my kid wouldn't feel she could talk to me. You are in a dangerous situation and I hope you take the advice of the people here and tell your bf to go play with people his own age.The reason you don't want to tell your parents is because you know this is the wrong thing for you. You wouldn't even ask if you thought this was the right way for you to go. Kids pretending to be grownups, playing grownup games. Grownups lose at these games I can't see how kids think they can win.
I'm a bit scared...boy does that say it all. Making love should be a beautiful step in your life not one filled with fear and uncertainty.
Dump this loser, hey if he loves you he can wait till you turn 18, or even until you reach puberty. Do you know this guy is a pedaphile?? the lowest form of life allowed to breathe air on this planet.
You won't listen, of course, go to a free clinic and ask to be put on the pill, and get condoms too, and use them, even for oral. If you want to be grownup then act like it and protect yourself.
2006-10-16 07:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 12, you'll b 13 next month. He's 18!!!!! You shouldn't be thinking about any kind of sexually things, with him or anyone else. Your only 12... Just with what you 2 are doing now he can go to jail that is called statuary rape. You should tell him no and end the relationship you have with him, now.
2006-10-16 05:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tuty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im going to tell u this i lost my virginity when i was 15 and i am noe preg w/ my 3rd child so if you could avoid loing it please do so but i would use protection but thats not 100% so u should probably let ur parents put u on birth control and if ur scared to tell them ur thinkin about havin sex then tell them your period is acting weird and they will take u to the doc which u will be getting a pelvic exam so dont have sex until you have been to the Dr. and he will put you on the pill but make sure your ready.
2006-10-16 05:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by pg#3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....im 19 and i can tell you right now that this "boy" is using you. The only thing on his mind is getting his dick sucked for free. I think you need to dump his a s s right NOW! I bet he is cheating on you with other girls his own age right at this moment....
Do you really think its right for you a 12 year-old (almost 13) to get or give oral sex from an 18 year old....come on!!!!!
2006-10-16 05:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋