I have a male friend matt i met the first day of college we became friends fast and i was considering dating him but my mom was not thrilled he was 22 years old so i told him we should just be friends.He also was still hung up over an ex.gf who cheated on him he seemed emotionally unstable and was constantly depressed. He told me he used to be addictted to drugs (meth) and was going to meetings. I started seeing someone else from one of my classes and started avoiding him not answering his calls and stuff. He still calls and wants to date me?I just dont like him the way he likes me but dont want to be mean ? Is it rong to still use mom as the excuse?I am 18 and i live at home.
2006-10-16 05:31:04 · 13 answers · asked by Jackie P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yeah, it's wrong. Just tell him you aren't interested in seeing anybody exclusively at the moment.
2006-10-16 05:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are giving all the right signals, not taking or returning calls, moving on to a new guy... Etc.
Matt doesn't seem able to take the hint however.... You may have to be more blunt and tell Matt you are not interested in dating him at all... It's not mean some people need to be told in flat terms or they will continue pursuing...
As for using Mom as an excuse, sometimes you want to opt out of something without hurting peoples feelings, a party or movie etc. in those cases using "Sorry guys Mom needs me at home" as an excuse is fine...
With Matt however it's gone past the casual opting out you need to be firm and tell Matt to back off , his behavior (continuing to call even though you have clearly moved on) coupled with his past (depression, drug use, emotional instability) are red flags and his behavior is treading close to the stalker realm... Let him know you don't want to date him and want him to stop calling, don't give him a single shread of hope that you ever will.. If he doesn't back off get the police both campus and city involved as a stalker problem can escalate very quickly and Matt seems primed to go to the full on stalker extreme...
2006-10-16 05:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 12:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by equils 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and be honest with him. You can't go on just avoiding people for the rest of your life! Besides, you never know when you will run into him again later in life and wish you had been nicer! For example: Ten years from now, you apply for your dream job and guess who the boss is? Yep, the guy you ignored instead of being straight with!
2006-10-16 05:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's wrong to use you mom as the reason when that is not the case. Explain to him that you have meet someone else and are not interested in dating him.
2006-10-16 06:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by ellc123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are dealing with someone with his background, I don't think using your mom as an excuse is wrong. She still feels you should not date him right? so you are not technically lying. Listen to your gut, if you don't want to date him, don't.
Good luck in college.
2006-10-16 05:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sort of wrong to do that, but I would wanna do the same dag gone thing! He's going to keep bugging you until you're flat out honest with him. Just tell him I don't want to hurt your feelings but you're just not the kind of person I want to date or somethin like that. He's probably not going to like what you have to say no matter how you say it b/c you're not saying you wanna go out with him. Eventually he will get over it though.
2006-10-16 05:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by tk_9702 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I THINK THAT DEPENDS ON HOW YOU LOOK AT IT.
FOR ONE IT COULD BE SEEN AS WRONG BECAUSE HE IS GOING TO BE MAD AT THE WRONG PERSON. BUT FOR 2 IF YOU ARE UNSURE ON HOW HE WILL REACT THEN I GUESS IT WOULD BE OK,FOR NOW. I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD PLAIN OUT TELL HIM WHAT YOUR PROBLEM IS AND WHY SO THAT MAYBE HE COULD FIND SOMEONE MORE HIS TYPE TO DATE. DON'T HAVE HIM THERE THINKING THAT YOU LIKE HIM SO HE SPENDS HIS TIME TRYING TO FIND WAYS TO HAVE YOU SNEAK FROM YOUR MOM. HE COULD BE USING THAT TIME TO FIND A GIRL WHO ACCEPTS HIM.
2006-10-19 10:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by b_rachelk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not tell him you're dating someone else?
it is not being mean to not want to date someone. it is being true to yourself. stop leading him on by continuing to talk with him about anything personal.
2006-10-16 06:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong. You just need to tell him you are not interested.
2006-10-16 05:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by Coco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋