I have been single for 10 months and I am not in a rush to get a in a relationship. However, there are some guys that I find interesting.... But when I start talking to them, most of them are either taken, gay are totally not interested! On the other hand, I seem to attract guys which I don't want anything to do with (not even friends...) I am doing something wrong? And no I am not short, fat, and ugly girl; just plain "normal"...
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks!
2006-10-16 05:29:41 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing is wrong with you...this is normal. In this day and age it takes time and patience to finally find that someone who is interested in you as you are in them. Don't let this be about you not being good enough, it is about life and timing, and we all go through it.
2006-10-16 05:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm it would seem you are in a bit of a jam.....The guys you dont want you dont have to take, the ones you are interested in are queer or taken. My advice is to sit tight, look good and when the time is right, some guy will come along and make you feel like a princess. You may just not be mixing in the right circles. The main thing is not to worry, sooner or later you will get the love you are looking for. Try taking a short college class or getting involved in your community at events where you get to meet a lot of people. Its all about being out there hun.
2006-10-16 05:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by naughtiest_nurse_of_em_all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welll take a look at how you dress. That will attract certain types of people. Dress for the people you want to attract.
Take a look at where you are going to hang out. Again.. that says a lot about you and what you are looking for.
Finally... even if you are not short, fat and ugly.. go in just for yourself and get a makeover!!! have somone show you new ways for makeup.. get a new hair style... and maybe some new clothes to match the new you... explore yourself and make those discoveries visible to everyone else so they can see the real you!
2006-10-16 05:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you, you are not emotionally avaible right now, it happens to everyone. It's your sub-conscience tell you that you need a break. When you have doubt don't put your self in a situation where you don't want to be.
10 months may seem long, but maybe you neeed this time for a change for yourself. You need to put your needs first and if you seem like the type to take care of yourself you then will attract someone who will care for you as much as you do yourself.
In other words the corny phrases love yourself. Nothing is wrong, you will know when your ready.
2006-10-16 05:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're setting your standards to high. I mean guys are just weird to begin with. When you get to know them you find that there's something more under that layer of....... well whatever (tattoos,piercings,rough act,) Guys put out this totally different exterior, then what's on the inside. Get to know a guy before you decide that you don't like them.
2006-10-16 05:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to my world as a man. seems like when you get to a certin age, all the good prospects are taken. the single ones are either nuts, looking for a daddy for them and their kids, or have some other baggage. i dont do the bar scene and i also really think the quality singles are like me, we dont leave the house other than to work or go shopping.. so how would we meet anyway? guess, i really dont have an answer, just know i feel your pain.
2006-10-16 05:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by Dog Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, this is the deal
Because your not in a rush to get into something, the 'vibe' you give off is 'no thanks'
The scrody guys don't care, they just wanna get laid.
Seems you need to hook up with some singles clubs/dances/churches etc to find the ones worth finding~
One of my girlfriends has done just that and has a nice variety of men to date thruout the week and she too is 'normal' as you stated.
Put those boobs out, swing those hips and SMILE darlin, you'll get there!!
2006-10-16 05:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think that it's you. Maybe you're just trying too hard and guys can pick up on that. Subconsciously they see you as desperate. Just tell yourself every day that you are beautiful and unique, and don't listen to people who try to tell you differently. Just be yourself, do what you normally do, and don't actively seek a guy, let them find you.
2006-10-16 05:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by rmdndangerous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Its just the men you are attracted to aren't interested in you, and the guys who like you, you aren't interested in them. Really, ya gotta just keep looking, you will find someone who likes you as much as you like them.
2006-10-16 05:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by twilight_pisces 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out a book called "Excuse me, your life is waiting" It might explain some of this. the book is by Lynn Grabhorn. I'm right in the middle and I had the same questions that you just asked.
2006-10-16 05:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋