I had to have emergency surgery 3 years ago which entailed me being cut open downwards from my bellybutton down to where my pubes start. There is a guy I really really like and I want to know if my scar which is fading a bit now, will turn him off? my previous boyfriend dumped me 'cos he said I was ugly, will I ever be able to have a loving boy/girl thing ever again - I'm 46 yrs old
2006-10-16 05:16:04 · 28 answers · asked by l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honey...the one that dumped you had just opened new avenues for you...he was ignorant and does not have a frickin clue...good riddence to him...his loss....i have an appendix scar and a scar on the back of my leg, and they have never been a problem for anyone i have met...i am not self concious about my scars....they are part of me now....dont worry about your scar sweetheart...the next person you meet will be wonderful with you....you will have love again...i dont think a scar is going to turn them off...your ex is a fool for saying your ugly....i hope you told him to look in the mirrir....dont be too put off by that scar hun...it's part of you now..it's unique...if i were there now i would give you a big hug..you sound like a really nice lady...bless you...i am 43 and i have love in my life...your only 3 years older....get out there and wow that guy...he will love you no matter how many scars you have....
2006-10-16 06:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I suggest you forget for a moment about the physical scar.
At 46 we have all lived life and gained trophys to show it. Good thing I say. And most of them are emotional. You live life, give it a go and come back for another go. Faith and courage and very hard work at times! Just as you reach the point of stopping to worry about your scar, your pubes go gray!
Get my drift? I was 14 and went through a car windscreen and my face was well scarred. Scars can be a turn on as well I learnt. Think tatooes!
Issue is your perception. Ex used it as a pure excuse. Nothing more.
Live and enjoy life please. And accept. You could have lost limbs, children, be dead. That is not to dismiss how you feel about your body. Get a couple of sessions of counselling if need be. What happened was a real shock and don't dismiss it!
We all grow old. Better than the alternative!
Thanks for letting me rant!
2006-10-16 07:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww, that's just down right mean..glad he is your ex-b/f. neosporn has a scar cream, it works great, but then again, you've had surgery. don't let things like that bother you, it doesn't have anything to do with of who you are as a person. Goodluck, and if this new bf really cares for you, it won't matter...tell him about it or show him first, then you'll know if he's worth going all the way with. God Bless
2006-10-16 05:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a scar on my face and the best women I have ever meet have loved me despite it. I see the scar as a blessing because it means I don't end up with shallow women.
2006-10-16 05:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by John T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a scar which sounds similar to yours and although I'm conscious of it, it has never been an issue with boyfriends I've had since my op (10 years ago). Your ex sounds like an idiot! Don't worry.
2006-10-16 06:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by emma j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same scar and none of my lovers has a problem with it. One of them use to kiss the scar on the way to my privates. Don't worry about, right partner will understand.
Good luck.
2006-10-16 07:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kev's Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure any guy who is worth it will not be put off by it - as you age the scars will fade but you will still remain a special person!
2006-10-16 05:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by bovie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your previous boyfriend was a git. Most men won't even notice your scar, they'll be too busy looing at all the other bits of you that men like best.
2006-10-16 05:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a tosser, poor you, its bad enough going through that without being made to feel bad about it.
you could always bring it up in conversation about your ex, and if he is turned off by your scar then he s not worth knowing.
you could get s really nice basque that you could keep on during sex and he d never get to see it anyway.
you ll find someone who loves you for who you are, whatever your body is like. this man has ruined your past dont let him ruin your future too. be confident and happy in yourself.
x
2006-10-16 05:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My scar runs from above my belly button to just above my pubes. I have had three children since then so it is all a bit mis-shaped. It makes no difference at all, especially when laid down. I am 51
2006-10-22 02:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋