I am in love with my girlfriend, and we have been going out for about a year and a half, most of which was while i was at college. Right now i am a sophomore in college, and she is a freshman at a college nearby. I get to see her about once a week.
I really want to be single, as i havent been single yet in college, but i am still very in love with her. I dont know what to do. my brain wants me to be single, but my heart wants to be with her. I want to be single and explore that side of college life, but i am still in love with her and I dont know what to do. Stay with her, or go it solo? Give me some advice, or just get a few points by saying something stupid.
2006-10-16 05:15:32 · 11 answers · asked by John W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by all means, have your cake and eat it too
2006-10-16 05:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kind of in a tough situation.
You love your girlfriend but at the same time want to experience being solo.
First, ask yourself if you'd be able willing to give up your gf, possibly forever?
If the answer is no, then stay with her.
Also, what do you think about her seeing other guys and being single in college? Do you want the same for her? For her to experience the single college life?
It goes both ways buddy!
If you're thinking "I'll just have my fun and go back to her when I'm ready to settle down again"...this doesn't always work. She could find someone new by then and fall in love with this new person.
Good luck!
2006-10-16 09:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any sign of doubt is not good, it's one way or another way with love. If you truely love her you would compermise if possible, however it sounds like you want to experience college on your own and without her.
Wise desision, honestly people will tell you your stupid and making a mistake.
Ask yourself this though, do you see you being married to her?
If it's been 1 1/2 and you don't know then the answer is no.
Put your self first, seriously you need to think about what you want. I don't know if what you have is love or lust or what, but think about your future. It's been a year and a half so you should know if your going to marry her by now or if you need to move on.
2006-10-16 05:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing somebody once a week in college is a recipe for disaster. If you are having these kinds of feelings, one night you will be drunk and a cute girl down the hall will want to watch Saturday Night Live and next thing you know you cheated and feel guilty. I've been out of college for a while now and wish I was back. College is to great a time to be unhappy.
2006-10-16 05:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by orangecrate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly love her you wouldn't want to be away from her if i loved a girl and she was nearby like that i would go see her allot more often but if you think she is "the one" then stay with her it will get better but if not then go out have some fun
2006-10-16 05:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by ChucK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision depends on whether you live your life with your heart or your brain. If you truely love her you wouldn't want to be single. You are young so maybe its just young love and not your one true love.
2006-10-16 05:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by bmaldon04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't really know what to tell you but here is my advice i have been in this situation before i didn't know what to do just go with what feels right if you choose to breake up with her and then like1 day later it feels wrong then ask her back out and explain to her what was going on or just tell her exactly what you told us in the exact same words okay good luck
2006-10-16 05:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by punk4life32435 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be single. College and your early 20s is when, (in my opinion) u need to make the mistakes that shape ur future. Just my opinion.
2006-10-16 05:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always Follow your Heart!!!!
2006-10-16 05:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude - ask yourself how you'd feel about her being with someone else. if it's unbearable, then stay faithful.
2006-10-16 05:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Beechy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋