Didn't call, text or come to see me the whole past week that i have been recovering. We have been together for almost 6mo and he was prety much living with me. No how do you feel, do you need anything or are you ok. I have tried to talk to him and tell him it really hurt my feelings that he was being so unsympathetic but to no avail.
I don't really know what to do. He spent the night last night but I didn't feel 11:00 was the best time to talk about it so I left it alone.
What would you say?
2006-10-16 05:14:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a Laparodomy because I have Endometriosis
2006-10-16 05:55:42 · update #1
I see a general theme to all of your questions. They can all be answered with one answer. This guy does not care about you at all, all he wants is the sex and you keep on giving it to him. So you can let him keep using you, or stop letting him use you. But dont whine to us the next time you let him use you and he hurts you again.
2006-10-16 05:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Now i would be pissed off too. Now i am not taking up for him or anything, but think for a minute. Maybe he was more scared about the surgery than you were. Now that it is over he thinks that things have to change, in that maybe you need some kind of special care and he doesn't know where to start to help you. He might still be afraid. Men have a strange way of showing fear.The get withdrawal syndrome. He spent the night with you so maybe he is now starting to come around. Chances are he doesn't want to hear about the surgery either. You are okay and that is all that matter to him.
Give him a chance to come around. But if in a week he still acting like nothing wrong with you, BLAST HIS A$$ and then DUMP HIM.
2006-10-16 12:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to dump this loser ASAP!!!! Why is he even allowed in your home after all of this??? Your good because I would have never put up with that. He didn't come and see you, help take care of you or anything. This is not the type of guy you want in your life. If he can't even be there for you when your sick what does that tell you??????? He's uncaring, and has no type of sympathy or compassion at all. Do yourself a favor and dump him. Find yourself a real man that will love and have a lot more respect for you.
2006-10-16 12:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him, see what his excuses are and then tell him how you feel. Did he have any valid reasons? Maybe the surgery scared him and he didn't know how to react. Maybe he was more concerned about you than he is willing to show you. The only advise you should take out of here is TALK TO HIM. If you don't talk to him and see what his reasons are, you could be getting rid of a man who genuinely cares about you but just doesn't know how to show you. Men are more complicated than they want us to think. If his reasons are not good enough for you, then tell him so. This man might have thought you needed peace and quiet and was staying away so you could rest!
2006-10-16 12:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Endometriosis is a painful, chronic, incurable condition. If he couldn't be there after your surgery to help support you and try to make your recovery easier, you don't need him to bring you down as you deal with the disease (or anything else) in the future. You need and deserve someone who will stick with you and help you when you are in pain, not when it's convenient for him. I'd say, you deserve better.
2006-10-17 11:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Endo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a total jerk. Perhaps he's just using you for a place to live if he only shows up to sleep there, like your place is a hotel. I would be pretty upset too. This is a tough situation, I think I would ask him to leave if it were me in your shoes. Good luck, and hope you recover well from sergery :)
2006-10-16 12:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was afraid and insecure, didn't know how to help you and was too chicken to ask. Just a typical guy response that gets worse in crisis mode. If you told him how you felt and he still didn't respond, he never will. But evaluate the good and bad because it's unlikely you'll find a guy who is different.
2006-10-16 12:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is an a$$ for not being there for you. You are right, do not talk about it when you are hurt. Wait until you are better. You need to let him know that you want him to be there for you just as you would for him or that you don't want to be with him. Cause why are you going to be with someone who is not there when you really need them?????
2006-10-16 12:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say something along the lines of "Sorry, but your obviously immature, selfish, have few if any morals, and don't care about me at all, so get out of my house, and never come back"
2006-10-16 12:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by wingedstrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dublin boy hit the nail on the head
2006-10-16 12:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋