I didnt think it was possible, but I love her. I live 1200 miles away from her. I have some things here that I'm trying to do, but I could probably do them where she is. My family is here, but that's really not that big of an issue. Question is: how do I decide to make that move to where this woman is?
2006-10-16 04:47:57 · 13 answers · asked by INFINITE CONSCIOUSNESS 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, meet her. Second, meet her again. Third, meet one more time. Fourth, make the decision about moving to where she lives.
2006-10-16 04:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved in with my boyfriend after 3 months of long-distance dating... but he also flew in to see me atleast 3 weekends a month.
It's a difficult call. I would have done things alot differently. Probably not have moved in WITH him.
If she is living in a town where you can get a good job and which you like... by all means, MOVE (but not in with her- yet)! The worst that can happen is that you break up but are in a new city around different people.
... that being said, I hope that you have met her already (unless you're just looking for an excuse to leave your boring home town and crazy family :P)
Treat things like any other cross-country move and try not to think of her as the "main reason" for moving. Otherwise, if things go bad, then you will be in a bad place mentally.
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst, and expect nothing!
2006-10-16 04:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently broke up with my LDR guy after 7 months of corresponding. We talked on the phone for hundreds if not thousands of hours. We also imed while at work. The bad thing was we only saw each other once. The whole relationship began to revolve around when we were going to see each other again & when one of us was moving. I would recommend just remaining labeless (not boyfriend/girlfriend for about 6 months to maybe even a year. Then come back to the table and talk about the next step. I was all set to move to him in 2007 uproot my son rearrange my business. And he seemed up for it too. But in July abruptly he told me to cancel my weeklong trip (keep in mind it was going on 6 months that we had not seen each other). Each person needs to be on the same page and moving at the same pace to make it work. If it does not work,then both sides should be prepared to have a back up plan and try to stay friends. You also don't ever want to blame the other person for what you had to give up to be with them.
2006-10-16 04:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by q8336b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude for all you know this woman you love is 12 year old child or a 80 year old man. I do NOT deal with online relationships because they can EASILY be bullshit. A good friend of mine had an online relationship with a dude for 2+ years that she was sooo in love with and they even talked on the phone and she talked to his older sister and made a blanket for his sister'snew baby. Just found out his older sister was his girlfriend and the baby was his child. Its not worth it unless you know for a FACT your dealing with someone legit. I wouldn't even give it a try BUT thats me.
2006-10-16 04:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a little va-kay first hun. So you can get a feel of her and her surroundings stay for a while, because of course she is going to show the sweet side of her first. But you need to get the know the ugly side of her too. Remember they go hand and hand. See if you can accept her flaws and vice versa. Lastly prayer is always the answer when life throws whrilwinds your way. Keep the faith you'll be fine.
2006-10-16 04:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Nellybean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slow down and get to know her better first. You don't want to move 1200 miles to discover she's really married or something. Take it slow, if after a year, you still feel the same, then pack your bags and go.
2006-10-16 04:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by rmdndangerous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer particular about the difficulty prerequisites. feels like they could be geared extra for human beings medically unable to shuttle. That suggested, you're prepared to marry someone you have not in any respect seen? actual charm is found in man or woman. no longer in basic terms a seen. if you're prepared to make a dedication for something of your life, does no longer $2000 be a small sum to pay?
2016-12-04 21:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by dricketts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would visit a couple times. maybe even stay for a week or two. Things like this...there no real way to decieded. You just have to do it. Jump in head first. Life's too short....and Love is rare..Ya know!
2006-10-16 05:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by luvladyblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should or she should make a trip and spen some real time together first before making any big decisions like that. I hope all goes well but be smart about it.
2006-10-16 04:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take vacation and go and visit with her to make sure that things would work out before moving
2006-10-16 04:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋