what happenns if a child was given too much responsibility.What do they do like in negative way?

Question

i want to know whats going to happen iwhy thei parents do that

Answer 1

I'm the oldest of 5 kids, and my parents gave me too much responsibility. From the age of about ten, I was the primary caretaker for my younger siblings, and I did a lot of the housework because my mother was depressed and had emotional problems and my dad just sort of checked out. I'm almost 20 now, and I'm in college. The results for me have been a lot of frustration--I'm a very big perfectionist, which means really, really big anxiety for me. I also feel weighed down by responsibility for my younger siblings still, yet frustrated because since I'm away at college, I can't be there to make sure they're okay. I tend to have a lot of guilt and shame about everything from my body to how clean my apartment is to my grades; I just feel exhausted from the mental burden of the anxiety. One of the worst things has been (I think) that I feel worn out, like I'm forty instead of twenty. I feel like I missed the first seventeen years of my life, and I can never get them back. I didn't get to do the fun things that most kids do, because I was too busy worrying about my responsibilities at home--I barely ever left the house, didn't have friends. I was pretty depressed and anxious as a kid, and it just got worse and worse until college, when I became anorexic and started getting treatment. Now, I'm slowly getting better. But I can't ever get those years back, and my relationship with both my parents has been really bad partly because I'm angry at them for giving me all that responsibility, and because I don't trust them.

From what I've learned in my psychology classes (that's my major), those results are pretty typical. Children who have experienced that sort of childhood are more prone to anorexia/bulimia in particular, as well as anxiety and depression. It's considered a form of emotional abuse, which can (in some cases) actually have worse consequences than physical abuse because the people around the child are less likely to notice the abuse and intervene. It can also be a vicious cycle: the child may grow up to marry an abusive person because that's all he/she knows, and may continue the behavior with their own children. The key is intervening as early as possible and sticking with therapy and any medication that's necessary, so the cycle can be stopped.

Hope that helps!

Answer 2

My mother had 11 brothers and sisters, she was forced to help raise her younger siblings. When she got married at 18, there was no surprise that she didn't want any children. My brother and me are here because of my father. Mom was very mature and set in her ways at a early age. I think children should be kids, and allowed to enjoy their childhood. Kids should have little to no worries at all.

Answer 3

Like me, my nephew and niece were so much taller than their age. All would treat them according to size, and they learned not to be a child, but to please everyone around them. They will grow up very fast, to fast. and you will not be able to catch them. Parents can be looking at the child not the babe, maybe needing a lot of help in the home. Parents remember your child is just that a child.......

Answer 4

no longer inevitably. an excellent or sensible baby born to damaging father and mom will probable come out of it ok. yet oftentimes, sure. in case you spot a brat or bully or violent baby, it may very practically continually be defined by way of the father and mom behaviour.

Answer 5

some children do just fine. Then there's children who rebel.Some earlier than others and then there's children who turn into adults and wait till there children leave to rebel like I'm doing. good luck