A repeat, but I need some more advice. I like her too much to not try and get this just right.
We had the first real tiff in our relationship Sat night. I was mad because she called me about 5 times within an hour of leaving my place after a day of fun together then wouldn't call me back several hours after I had left her a message. Before going to bed I called her, upset, and said that I felt like it was a double standard. Now I haven't talked to her since then despite a couple of messages I left her yesterday. I am willing to admit I may have gone too far, but going overboard once doesn't seem like it should be a deal-breaker. We have been dating for several months and this is the first time she has ever dodged calls from me. How long would you wait before assuming she's not going to call anymore? She is apparently mad, so how much time would you give a 6 mo. relationship before saying it's not worth waiting for? Or am I just over-reacting?
2006-10-16 04:41:39 · 7 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At this point, the idea of ending it is over reacting.
Find a way to see her in person so that she can't doge you. Ask her why she is ignoring you. Tell her that you are sorry for becoming upset with her, but she shouldn't be hypocritical. If she expects you to answer every call, then she should do the same. If she persists in being angry, tell her that you won't bother her and that you will wait till she has calmed down to pursue this further.
Then, I would give her two weeks. If she hasn't made the slightest attempt at reconciliation, just tell her that after six months, you would expect her to be a little more open to fixing the minor problems to make the relationship work. If she doesn't break and try to make it up, just let her know you were expecting more from her and that you are moving on to find some one that is a little closer to you on the maturity scale.
Hope I've helped!
2006-10-16 04:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Shel K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why she called 5 times? Anyways, just give her sometime. Don't call or text her till she responds now. Don't assume anything. She will call back and then you guys need to talk about it. Anything you want is worth waiting for. Maybe she needs time to think, females do that. When she is ready she'll call you back and then you need to talk to her about the situation. Good luck to you.
2006-10-16 11:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the pansy train, no offense. Just quit calling as doing so seems desperate. Not calling puts the ball in her court and she will wonder what is up. No matter what she is doing she will be dying to know why you just stopped calling. Think.... you are confident and dont need her... she will come around again.
2006-10-16 11:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did not go too far. just give a max of 1-2 weeks shell get over it but if she doesnt ever call then you call her and tell her that you didnt mean to get her ticked off. and explain to her why you left that messages.
2006-10-16 11:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm you might be just over-reacting but i think you should seriously just talk to her one day face to face about everything. 6 months is a long time and i don't you should just give up so easily and break off the relationship, unless you know for sure that she is not for you.
2006-10-16 11:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by craigorous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are under 17 years old-take a deep breath- play it out quietly
if you are over 17 shame on you both, you sound like 12 year ols
2006-10-16 11:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by borrowedtime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you, my friend, are a complete wuss. don't call her. make her call you. if she doesn't that's her problem. if she waits too long, tell her you'll only see her if she brings a hot friend along
2006-10-16 11:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋