Why are you reading this?

Question

What are you looking for? Is this a 'virtual arena' substituting for your rage that you want to manifest physically..by hitting or beating someone....but can not or are really a timid type person? Are you really 15 years old and know it all? Are you 40 years old and don't want to have to answer for all the screwed up things you did/do?

Is it just plain fun to hate? Or to hate a croup or groups of people?

Do you ask questions so new people will run out of answer allowance?

Is it just a race for points and spirituality is just a sign on the door?

Are you just looking for someone to bash, like they did to you when you were in school?

Do I annoy you?

I just want to debate. I read what you say. I look it up. I see other possibilities listed alongside. I say those. I am bashed. Why?

I don't consider answers contrary to my beleifs bashing. It is the I hate you's and obvious stuff. I can no more argue you into standing nude in rush hour traffic than I can argue you into my way of thinking. And I guess, vice-versa.

hmmmm, I did not say all are these. I do not beleive that, I have been here a few days and seen some great answers. I just posted some thoughts. Loved the 'which one are you comment'......I am the seeker of knowledge, with the expectation of being corrected

Answer 1

Gee .. a ten point question ... so, we'll go at this one at a time, though some answers may be a repeat of an earlier question of yours.
#1 What am I looking for? - I'm assuming by that question that you mean when I come into the Q/A area. When I come in here to see what questions I may want to answer and I know the answer(s) to them I'll answer the question(s) to the best of my ability. I try to think of the questioners' comments and their questions and base my answer either from practical experience or knowledge that I've gained over the time I have been alive. If need be, I will go and use web sites to support why I'm saying what I'm answering to. My true intention is to help, if at all possible. If not, because I just "don't know", I usually back away from the question because why should I give out falsified information if it isn't true? If I was wrong in an answer I gave, I would want the questioner(s) to understand that I truly gave it my "best shot" and from what I thought was the truth. If I was wrong or am wrong and people see that, then I'm truly sorry because I was answering questions to the best of my ability.
#2 Is this my virtual arena, etc., etc. because I may be timid? - No. This is not my "arena" to go out and hurt anyone nor am I timid.
Am I 15 and know it all? No, I'm not 15 and even at my age of 53 still claim to this day "I don't know it all".
#3 Am I 40 and don't want to answer to all the things I screwed up in my past? - Again, No, I am not 40 I am 53. Yes, it is true that in my life I have screwed up, as you say, BUT I have learned my lessons from those times I screwed up; at least I like to think I have. BUT, that, to this day, does NOT make me perfect by no means. Nor do I see myself as perfect. I still screw up at times; even at the age of 53. I would like to think I "screw up" less now than I did when I was younger. But, to remind you, I am not perfect and I make mistakes. I think everyone, including you, can say the same thing --- right?
#4 Is it just plain fun to hate? Or hate a group or groups of people? - NO. I emphasize that because HATE is no one's answer to anything. All it does is breed more hate. Why should I contribute to the hate that is already out there? So, NO, I don't hate. I mean that.
#5 Do I ask questions, etc. etc. ? No. At the present time I haven't asked any questions, as YET. It doesn't mean that in the future I may very well have questions to things I want to know and want a general consensus to see what others thought or have answers I need to know.
#6 Is it a race for points? -Not for me it isn't.
#7 Is spirituality a "sign" on my door? -It is true I believe in Jesus Christ as my Savior and I'm not ashamed to admit that. I don't answer every question with a spiritual thought in my head. A few of the questions I answered dealt with historical people here in the U.S.A. I didn't bring up my faith in those type of questions. I have brought up the fact that through prayer and guidance I was helped in different situations. I never meant it to be a "badge" of honor. I merely wanted to share my thoughts and how I was helped in a similar situation(s). The questioner has the choice to "listen" to me or not. I hope they do. But, if not, then, that's their decision I and won't force them to believe one way or the other.
#8 Am I looking for someone to bash; like they did to me when I was in school? -No, I am not out to "bash" anyone; including you in this "debate" you brought up. It is true that when I was in school I wasn't "Mr. Popular" and I had my share of being bashed; as you say. But that was then. Why should I take it out on you or anyone else for that matter? Especially now? Thirty five years afterwards? Maybe some think that's what this Q/A is all about; to bash people; but I am one who doesn't. I really and honestly want to see if I may help; that's it.
#9 Am I annoyed by you? -Simple answer; NO.
#10 Why are you bashed? Here you got me. I really don't know. It might be the way you ask questions that brings on the "bashing". I'm not for certain on that and honestly, you would know that better than I. I will apologize to you if you have felt bashed. It's not a nice feeling and it does hurt. But, honestly, why you are being bashed (?) I really don't know. You seem nice, though I really don't know you. This is the first time I ever answered your questions, I believe. If I have in the past and you felt bashed by me, then again, I apologize. I never meant for you nor anyone to come away from this site feeling "bashed". Those were never my intentions. I guess, since you are the one who has been "bashed", the best thing is to look over your questions and how did you ask them? If you replied to any answers that were given how did you reply to them? What attitude was carried from your "self" and how you felt onto this medium whether in asking questions or replying to them - to the answers that were given? Granted, what looks like a repetitive question is actually asking you why did you feel bashed and how did you respond based on your feelings? Or is this your only response to feeling "bashed"?

To help you in the area where you feel "bashed", I would like to know what questions or answers that was done that presented this as a problem to you? One way to deal with all the answers is look for THE answer or the one - four answers that best answered your question(s). Of that small group you picked ... pick the one that is best of them since it not only helped you it also answered the question you posed. Ignore the rest that really don't "answer" your question(s). I only say this purely as a suggestion. What you do with it is up to you.

Answer 2

What am I looking for? Knowledge. I do not have rage, but I do have frustration. I am not a timid person at all and have had many heated religious/spiritual debates with others in a face-to-face format, however physical violence violates my principles. I am in my 30's and take responsibility for all the things I have done and maybe more importantly all the things I have not done. I answer for them each and every day to the worst judge I know, myself. It is not fun to hate and I do not hate people. I hate ignorance, hypocrisy and the ideologies behind many of the worlds religions. The people themselves are just that, people. I do not ask many questions and when I do I always hope for great answers. Points do not matter. That is why I get so many violation notices, I speak my mind. I was not bashed at school or anywhere else in my life. I do not desire to bash others in anyway, however I have no problem bashing beliefs and ideas that are harmful. You do not annoy me and I have never bashed you. Remember that your perspective feeling of being bashed may be rooted in your own insecurites. Many here feel that they have been bashed when they have only been questioned or debated with. I think most people here are looking for agreement and validation...and when they do not find it...they feel put upon. That is irresponsible and a form of bashing on it's own...making other's responsible for how you feel.

Answer 3

I actually ask myself some of those same questions, like why am i really on this forum. Is it to make myself feel good? When I came up with an answer, I found that first, I wanted to learn more and second, I wanted to be able to help someone who may have a legit questions, not to hurt or bash. Everyone has a right to voice themselves.

Answer 4

This section is not only bashing and hate. There is a fellowship here as well. There is a group here in this section of people who share common beliefs and interests and we all get along just fine. Most of us come here for fellowship, discussion, sometimes debate, and even to learn. Don't always be so quick to judge.

Answer 5

What I'm wondering is why are you asking those questions ?You're accusing us all of being either stupid kids, confused 40 year olds, haters, bashers, and who knows what else.
Since you ask and answer, just where do you fit in ? You're suggesting that everybody reading your question must fit into one of the above. Are you to basher ? The stupid kid ? The screwed-up 40 something ? The Hater ?

Answer 6

I'm not here to hate anyone. I'm here to search out questions I can answer to help people out, or have a laugh with them. I'm here to ask questions i have been thinking about for ages but have never had a satisfactory answer to. I'm here to see what makes other people tick. I'm interested, in truth, in what other people want to say.

Answer 7

i just love religious discussions
i am a minority here
i love being asked my thoughts on thing , and hoping that my thoughts may give someone else hope
i have made great friends here and will continue to make more
and no you dont annoy me at all :o)

Answer 8

It serves me best to learn alternative opinions.
I come to this prepared to be changed for ever.

Answer 9

I read these questions because I learn things by picking up references and sources and exploring them further. No one is such an idiot that something can't be learned from them.

Answer 10

if you can't get over it then just get under it & if that doesn't work go around it. Remember that "still keyboards makes no enemies".