Hi i am 35 years old and i have a problem, i got married 10 yrs back and also have a kid who is 8 yrs old. 8 yrs back my wife met with an accident and injured her spine and since then she is bed ridden. Now for the last so mainy years i have been taking care of her very nicely but now i feel sexually frustrated for i have not had sex for the last so mainy years, is there some lady who has got same problem like me and thinks its right to spend some time with me, see i am not asking for sex but yes we can be together and share your feelings may be go out for a cup of coffee. so if you feel we both can be good friends then please mail me at tanhadil_jan@yahoo.co.in waiting for some one who can enlighten my dull and boring life, please angel i am waiting
2006-10-16 04:38:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, imagine how your wife must feel! I would encourage you to both find a support group. People can find this information by contacting the National Spinal Cord Injury or a local Independent Living Center. People say "for better or worse, and in sickness and in health" when they get married. Also there are people with spinal cord injuries that also have a sexual relationship with their spouse. There are books out there about sex and disabilities.
There are also services and programs available for personal care assistance in the home for people with disabilities so the burden is not 100% on their loved ones. Again contact the National Spinal Cord Injury or a local Independent Living Center.
My husband has a heart condition and I have orthopedic issues. We would not just give up on each other just because we have medical issues. We knew about them before we got married. Some people can't deal with disability issues and it's sad. But there is help out there, in my opinion you are going in the wrong direction seeking help. Be honest and truthful to your wife.
2006-10-16 05:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your wife's condition but you did make a vow when you married her. For sickness and in health, lets not forget that. Also keep in mind that when we make these vows, we are also making these vows unto God. God also gave the commandment THOU SHALT NOT COMMITT ADULTERY. I understand how you feel as far as needing sex and someone to spend time with, but in all honesty it would be wrong in God's eyes and your wife. You have to stay committed to her no matter what. Would you really be able to face your wife when you come back home knowing that you had been out with another woman because of the condition she's in? Lets turn the tables around. How would you feel if you were in your wife shoes. Pray and ask God to give you the strength to remain faithful to Him and to your wife. In the mean time pray that God will heal your wife. There is nothing impossible for God. He can do all things. Now God is the one who can enlighten your dull boring life. I also commend you for taking care of your wife in the conditions that she's in. So many would have walked away. May God ever bless you and your wife. I hope this advice will help you.
2006-10-16 16:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I will tell you that it is hard dealing with spouses with disabilites. My husband does also have a physical disablitity. Sex is almost null. Could you talk to her and see if things would be ok by her. If they are you would be more likly to find someone to spend time with.
2016-05-22 06:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wanted to say what a great guy u r and dont think bad of u for feeling this way, good luck with love
2006-10-16 04:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So much for better or worse. Does your wife know how you feel?
2006-10-16 04:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by artist2213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you're an ***. that's your wife, dude....
2006-10-16 04:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋