Right now I am single, there is someone I am interested in, she is the same age as me.
How do I ensure that she understands that the reason I am asking her out is because I fancy her and not because I want to be her "friend"?
I have been in a situation before where I took a woman out sat there chatting for 3 hours, having a great time, then put my hand on hers and she looked at me in complete horror - not fun in a packed restaurant with people looking at you. I dont want to be in that situation again.
2006-10-16 04:28:15 · 9 answers · asked by PaulyPaul 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because someone accepts a date with you doesn't automatically mean that they want to get serious straight away. Sometimes these things take a while, other times not. A date is just about finding out if you both get on with each other. Be flirtatious, throw in some innuendo if you can, but don't come on too strong too soon and don't try to force anything to happen.
Try teasing her a bit to see her reaction. If she laughs and teases you back or thumps you, then you're on the right track. If she's not up for any of that then she's probably shy or boring.
I always try to be playful with girls because that's how I like them. I like them to be up for a laugh and a bit silly and if they're not, then they're not the girl for me and I don't see them again.
I'd also like to say that if you have asked her out, then she will probably already have an idea that you want to be more than just friends. As has been said previously though, don't just ask her out down the pub. Be a bit more creative than that.
2006-10-16 06:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to have to tell her how you feel about her. The sooner the better. It will work out better than trying to drop a few hints here and there. I would much rather find out straight away what a girl thinks about me than risk wasting months courting somebody that isn't interested in me that way. If you don't react badly to a negeative answer then chances are you will still have a friend. Girls appreciate a guy who can express his feelings!
2006-10-16 11:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by mbaker_713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just TELL her!!!!! Let her know that you think shes fantastic and would be interested in taking things beyond a friendship level - dont rush it though - make her comfortable and Im sure she'll be happy to give things a try. Good luck! xx
2006-10-16 11:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you invite them out, make sure you make it clear its a date and don't do the normal man thing where you go 'fancy meeting up in the pub' etc. Say that you'd like to take her out, and make sure its its a romantic place so she knows.
Its hard I know, but people can't read your mind and you can't read hers!
2006-10-16 11:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know she don't want that kind of relationship so don't even try it.
If you want to end this relationship quick then ask her out. It's a high risk and low outcome percentage but if you feel strongly then just be upfront with her and ask her out.
good luck
2006-10-16 11:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your mouth and say ... "I am interested in you as more than a friend. I would like to see if we are compatible on a guy/girl level."
2006-10-16 11:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her from the start you like her and want to be more than just friends
Good luck x
2006-10-16 16:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by diamond Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be flirtatious and read her signals right to see whether she's flirting or not. i guess it's like an art. you don't want to jump right into hand-holding without knowing for sure that she likes you in that way. girls can be confusing.
2006-10-16 11:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by painfullyaverage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with her tell her you like her and would like to see if it might lead anywhere go to a quiet (not dead) bar and chat get to no her better and let her get to no you Good luckXX
2006-10-16 11:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋