There are 2 men in my heart, but of course, I must choose one. One gives me "butterflies" and I think about him all the time......he's a little more unstable and not at kind, but we connect on soooo many levels. I feel he could be a kindred spirit.
The other warms my heart and treats me the way I should be treated. When I think of him, I am happy inside, I feel safe and secure, but it's not the same passion I feel for the first man. We connect but not on the same level as I do with the first man.
What should I do?
2006-10-16 04:10:46 · 15 answers · asked by Genevieve 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not a "cheater" in the true sense of the word....I met number one first and we agreed to date other people, at which point I met number 2. Now both want a decision as to which I will commit to.
2006-10-16 04:21:34 · update #1
I learned the hard way that passion doesnt not pay the rent. Butterflies is fine if your a teenager. As a adult you need to look for the more stable man that give you more security.The first man is unstable and not as kind as the second. Its easy to have fun when your not stable(live for the day)If this first man is everything you wanted you wouldnt have 2 men in your life.I dont think your giving the second man your 100% because it seems as if you enjoy being with the first man more. What can a unstable man possible do to make you so unsure about this other man. I think you should leave the second man alone since you are not feeling him like you do the first man. Its not fair to this second man to spend time with you and you have someone else on your mind.
2006-10-16 04:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough questions. I may be able to shed a little light in your queries. Please answer the following to yourself. What is it that I'm really looking for? Is it the wonderful feeling I get when I'm with #1 Or is it the sense of long term security I feel from #2? One thing to consider before deciding is: How long and how deep will the feeling of passion last, anyway? Another may be: How exciting is my life going to be with just long term security and not as much passion as with #1? Let me know what you think. jayme.contreras@gmail.com
2006-10-16 04:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer already but in case you really dont, go with the one that you connect with the most and feel love towards. With the second guy you said you feel safe and secure but that doesnt sound like love to me. And if you dont have to decide then see both of them until the way becomes clear to you.
2006-10-16 04:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want a man that is not kind & unstable? the man who makes you feel safe & warms your heart tis the man that you should choose. the ohter man will break your heart 7 your spirit & destroy anything you feel for him... you can always build on a passion.
you should always marry your best friend
2006-10-16 04:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with man #2. The butterflies you feel for Man #1 will dissappear and he will treat you like crap. So go for Man #2.
2006-10-16 04:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does one have 2 men in her heart at one time...sounds like your a cheater to me dear. Dump them both and get a hold of yourself.
2006-10-16 04:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no one is sure enough which one of them is better for you. Truth is that one of them is your destiny. You don't know who? And neither did anyone can tell you that, you have to choose by yourself. Just listen to your heart. What it says, do that & don't worry about the consequences. Keep your thinking high & hopefully you'll get the better result.
2006-10-16 04:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by emmshazi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the second man he sounds like he would last longer in a relationship. The way you feel for the second one is just as adrenalin rush.
2006-10-16 04:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down the pros and cons of each guy, and then put a percenta ge down beside each Con about how much this would really bother you. Then add it all up and decide.
NO THIS IS NOT EENY MEENY!
Basically, view yourself with each of them in the long term.
2006-10-16 04:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Zen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart choose someone who makes you happy and treats you right and who cares about you
2006-10-16 04:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋