Do you ever feel the feminist movement has gone to far?

Question

I’m all for equality in the work place.

I’m all for equal rights for both genders.

---BUT---

Lately I’ve noticed women taking this a little too far. I’ve noticed (in the work place and in the home) women believe they should get special privileges or treatment merely for being a woman. I’ve noticed a lot of women who stay at home (while the husband is working and supporting her) thinking it’s not their job to maintain a clean home. They want the man to come home (after a hard day of work) and clean up messes left by both or woman who simply won’t do a job in the work place because “they can’t do it.” Maybe I’m wrong but I feel strongly that if a woman wants a job they should do it (and every aspect of it) as good if not better then a man. Woman use this movement for excuses. They claim it’s not a woman’s job to cook and clean (basically everything pertaining to maintaining a home) therefore they do not do it. Yes, men have responsibilities too---they should help out. I think this movement has turned more in to women thinking they are superior or deserve more then men instead of the original idea of women getting equal rights

I’m so happy that I am liberated and that I can go out and get any career I want--regardless of being female. I’m a SAHM--if my husband was a stay at home dad I’d expect him to do just as much as I do. I just think the roles are being flipped--some women consider themselves better then men instead of equal. What are you feelings on this? Have you ever met a woman along these lines? Thank you for your comments!

**I put this in Pregnancy and Parenting as the majority of answers are from females.

So people don’t misunderstand (which I’m sure they will anyway) I’m not talking about SAHM/Ds who have children with disabilities, disabilities themselves, go to college, work at home, or have over four children under the age of five. I understand everyone has different circumstances. I understand to each is his own but honestly--I’m just curious.

In no way do I feel women are better then men. The meaning behind that comment was that women can and should do things just as good as men. I am the kind of person who strives to be the best. I try my hardest and usually get good results. Of course in a competitive work place a women (or a man) would try to do the same jobs--if not better then men (or women). Does that clarify it? I really don't think I'm better then a man. I work hard--I don't try to make an excuse by using my gender. I don't think it's right for women to do so. I hope this clears it up.

Emily O: Just because I do not work now does not mean I have never worked my entire life. I used to work at a corporate company (not even a year ago) and witnessed several women doing this. My husband works in the AF as a C-130 crew chief and is constantly picking up other women’s slack. Of course his job is very physical but I don’t think a woman should need help if that is the career she chose for herself. Some also used their femininity (which I don't think is very feminist) to get higher ranking jobs by sleeping with our supervisors. In my book that’s trashy--and not a part of the feminist movement. You are right. I did generalize. I actually tried to make it clear in the end when I put "some women" but I suppose I should have done that throughout the whole paragraph. I'm suprised I even did generalize because that is one thing I truley hate but I guess we all make mistakes.

Answer 1

I work outside of the home then come home to do my "homework", cooking, cleaning, caring for the children. I don't sit on my butt and expect my husband to do anything after he worked all day. I think I am a minority because I hear other women in the office talk about how they don't cook or clean and they expect their husbands to do this and that and care for the baby. They balk when I tell them I bring my husband and children their plates for dinner already made. My husband will cook occasionally about every six months or so and has done the dishes twice in the last three years. I would love to be a SAHM, but that would not be economically sound for my family. I don't sit down until around 8 or 9 at night because of all my daily chores, cooking, cleaning, laundry, making lunch and coffee for the next day and signing paperwork, children's homework. I think it's ridiculous women complaining and playing on the Internet all day while their husbands work and then come home to a dirty house, children and a complaining wife who expects them to do everything when they were home all day? It's a privilege to be able to stay home and care for your family... some of us do both! I expect my husband to cherish me as I respect him... but, I'm not going to bow down to every whim and he isn't going to just say, "yes dear you are right".

Answer 2

When compared to male priveledge, I don't think so. I'm not sure where your experience comes from, but I wouldn't try to generalize. laziness and self righteousness are personal choices, and have nothing to do with political choice.
The feminist movement does not advocate women not doing chores, or being treated "special in the workplace" (and no offense, but since you don't work, how do you know working women want special treatment?). These are behaviors that individuals choose, and they are not dictated by parameters of a social movement.
Feminism has diversified greatly in the last 40 years, and there are many sub-branches of the movement that do not share the same ideals. Some feminists want gender equality, while others seek to replace the higher social status that men hold with higher power for women, leaving men to hold a weaker social position.

Whether you are a feminist or not, you do men and women a disservice by generalizing a population by your perception of a few individuals' actions.

Answer 3

I understand what your saying and do agree to a point. I have to say, I do expect my husband to clean up some of the messes he makes. But, I do clean and certainly don't expect my husband to clean everything.... but it would be nice if he did even 5% of the cleaning. For example, when he gets home from work, he will get food and leave the dirty dishes in the bedroom... It's not really something that bothers me too much because it only takes like 5 seconds for me to run the dishes from the bedroom to the kitchen... but it would still be nice if he did it.

Other than that, yeah... I agree with you.

Answer 4

I think you have a skewed point of view.

Quote "as good if not better than a man"

In this simple quote you point out how you feel that women MUST be superior to men in all they do. THis is sexist.

I agree with all other remarks. Whether male or female, if you choose to take on a set of duties, be they work related, or home related you should complete them to the best of your ability.

In the workplace, I feel that any two human beings doing the same job should be paid alike.

In my household, the rule is "If she cooks, I clean, and if I cook, she cleans." (In fact, we both do a lot of the cleaning together.) I have a son in law who comes home and turns on teh game and turns in to a statue until food is ready and then goes to bed when the dinner is done. He's a jerk. He won't take care of the kids, won't even be a part of their lives all becuase of the almighty 'GAME'. THey both work, both bring in a good amount of money, but he just won't do anything around the house.

Answer 5

I would agree with you. I am 100% behind women being equal to men, but it has gotten to the point that some women want the same pay, but don't want the same responsiblities. I've worked with women who get special time off every month because of their period, but complain when a man takes off early from work to coach his son's football team. Things have gotten out of control. I hear women complain that chivalry is dead; it's dead because women killed it.

Answer 6

Maybe the husband of the woman who won't do housework needs sex three times a day and she's tired.

My dad didn't want his daughters to vacuum or mop floors. There were six of us girls, and we never did heavy work of any kind at home. He did it all because he thought it would twist our fallopian tubes and he wouldn't get grandchildren. If I could meet a man like him, I'd marry him in a heartbeat!

Some people have always gotten whatever they wanted. It has nothing to do with 'equal rights' or any other social concept. At some point, it becomes none of our business.

Answer 7

Yes, I do, women and men are still different in a lot of ways, that is okay, I embrace the differences but for some reason some females especially don't they want to think we are different, we all are just as good, but we are still different.. Also, in this aspect I am old fashioned I still like the door opened and I still like the male to do the chasing.

Answer 8

I do. I didn't read your entire entry. I think males need to stand up and get back some of their rights. Especially when it comes to abortion...

It's so sad, if a woman chooses to keep the baby, she can force the father to pay. While there is nothing wrong with this, it doesn't seem fair for her to have an abortion without his consent. She gets her cake and eats it to and he's stuck with nothing. If he wants to keep the child, he should be able to. She didn't have to ask his permission to keep it and he's stuck with child support. But if she feels she can't take care of it, she can have an abortion. NOT FAIR FOR THE FATHER. AND I DON'T GIVE A RATS BUTT IF IT'S HER BODY. SHE CHOSE TO LIE ON HER BACK, SO SHE SHOULD TAKE RESPONSIBILITY.

Answer 9

Yes, we shouldn´t attribute virtues to the minorities just because they are the underdog. They are still human beings with flaws and qualities. They lie and cheat as well as they may help and cure. This applies to ALL minorities...

Answer 10

Yes, it has gone too far.
Women have gone from requesting equal treatment to demanding better treatment.
I can't say I have personally met any one like this, but I know that they exist.