I have been with the girl I am with now for 2 yrs....I do love her & I do care about her but lately Ive been having thoughts of dating men, even wanting to find a man to settle down with. We have an apt together thats in her name. I find myself talking to men even letting them call my phone, even thou I know theres a good chance she'll find out! I almost feel like I want to get caught sometimes to have a way out. But I dont want to hurt her either, Im not heartless! Im just so confused with my emotions that I dont know what choice is best right now!! Any1 have any helpful advice?
2006-10-16 04:05:38 · 20 answers · asked by strawsucker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not happy with your life the way it is then you need to do something about it. You can't stay with someone just to keep from hurting them and continue to be miserable. That is not being fair to either one of you.
2006-10-16 04:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to criticize you, because I know how you feel (bisexual) I would suggest for now to just calm down, because composure is key in these types of situations. Now I need to ask, when did these feelings begin to occur?
If they began after the big gay marriage debate, it could be this feminine instinct to find some one you CAN have that sense of permanency with. In that case, I would suggest not fostering false feelings for men and only befriend them, not date them.
If they began before, then maybe you could just be looking for something new. Go out and do something with your girl that you haven't done in a long while, or just do something new that neither of you have ever done before. Then come home for a romantic evening. If it is the stuck in the rut thing, then this should shake it.
If this doesn't help, I'm sorry. This is the best advice I can give you however. Hope I've helped...
2006-10-16 04:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by Shel K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just break it 2 her. It's not fair 2 her, if u really love her u wont continue hurting her
thx 4 pointing it out Maggie3,
u r a girl with another and talking 2 guys, but seems like u have been cheating because u thought u were pregnant
do u work? Find a hobby
2006-10-16 04:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her! The worst way you can hurt her is by not telling her! If so she wants to see you happy, and if she is a real woman and really loves you...she will not make you feel bad about your decision and will want to see you happy. Yes, it may and will hurt the both of you, but life goes on. And make sure this is not just a "thing" your going through or it will mess you up in the long run. She will have many many questions so if you do tell her...get ready!!!
2006-10-16 04:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her, and tell her how you feel. In my opinion the last thing you should do is let her find out by chance, because she will go through torture and have so many questions that will be left unanswered, this way you can explain and she can ask all that she needs to know. I say don't be a coward and let her find out some other way, just be up front.....goodluck, i hope things work out for you and her, whether it be apart or together!
2006-10-16 04:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by xhoneybeex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound cliche...but you may just need a break. Just explain to her how you are feeling, and let her know the truth about everything. Tell her you don't want to hurt her, you just want to make sure that you are making the best decision, because it concerns both of you. I am sure that once you tell her the truth she will see that you just want to be sure you are doing the right thing for both of you. I hope this helps you some, if it doesn't, I am sorry.
2006-10-16 04:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ashree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to hurt her and you feel as if the feelings you are having are real then the you need to tell her the truth. It will hurt her but it will hurt her more for her to find out on her own.
I saw your other post so it is obvious you are a female yourself and obvious that you are already haveing at least one affair with a man so it is best you tell your gf before she finds out on her own.
2006-10-16 04:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of how you would feel if she kept something from you . I'm sure she doesn't want to be made a fool of and neither would you . Talk to her and let her know your feelings or it will eat you up inside untill you do . Good luck to both of you and I realy mean it , I hope you both will be happy thats what life is about !
2006-10-16 04:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer u wait the more painful is gonna be for her, i know its hard nothing in life is easy but u have to tell her i know u truely care about her and her feelings the longer u wait the more shame ur gonna feel within urself. No one can judge u only god has that divine power. if u feel that ur not ready to talk to her yet talk to god he will always undestand u, talk to him tell him how u feel and when u do deceide to tell her what u really feel dont forget god will be next to u holding ur hand.
2006-10-18 02:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want out. Pick a good time and tell her you think you need a break from the relationship. She won't be happy but she'll be much unhappier if you cheat on her. Good luck.
2006-10-16 04:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋