This guy that I've had a casual relationship with for over a year just moved away for family reasons. Before he left he told me that he still wants to keep in contact with me, and that if I ever needed someone to talk to then he'd be there. We had a really great relationship, and we still keep in contact through email & phone even after he left. If it the relationship was too casual, like just for sex, then I'm sure he would've just blown me off after he left, but I'm thinking it could be a start for something more, but I think it's going to take some time, but I'm willing to be patient. He also moved back home to get financially stable (it costs alot more to live where I'm at than where he lives now) So will time only tell? If he still wants to keep in contact, (not because of sex-he's 4 hours away) does he still care about me?
2006-10-16 04:00:59 · 7 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yup he still cares about u ..... sometimes poeple think they just want casual sex when they have it with their partner but when they lose him/her they find out that they lost sth more than just sex
2006-10-16 04:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by Saed Madanat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right about the sex thing I had a simi-casual realtionship with this guy and as soon as he was gonna move away he told me he came over to my house one more time and then I emailed him about 4 days before he left and see if he wanted to hang out since there was a chance that I would never get to see him again he simply said you talk to much and I haven't talked to him since but I think this guy truly cares for you if he moved 4 hours away and still takes the time to call you and email you there is something more there and I think you are right in that you should just see what happens I think this thing might work out for you in the end You and him sound like you have s really solid realtionship even though it was casual but I hope everything goes well for you
2006-10-16 04:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he does care, as a friend and maybe more. It does bring to mind the question as to why he is still in contact. The more important question here is do you have strong enough feelings to bring them to his attention to see if he feels the same way. You did say it was a mutual "casual" relationship (I love those from time to time when I'm single..) and that usually has an agreement attached to not have those type of feelings, becuse it is a "casual" thing. But be forewarned, if he is happy with the way things are now, it could be a problem. I had a casual thing with a guy, and I told him I was just around for the ah, shall we say good times..and when he started introducing me at parties as his girlfriend, it was my cue to go.. Good luck , whatever you do, but distance is usually a problem, so you may just want to go find someone fresh.
2006-10-16 04:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by pinkgoddess725 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a relationship is casual doesn't mean you can't care about each other. I slept with a guy for three years, we never were seen out in public together ;), but we still totally loved each other.
And with my husband, we were in a casual relationship for years, always had a spark or *something*, but never acted on it...and now we're married. I think you should be friends, wait it out, not totally pine for the guy and turn down dates or anything, but be friends and wait and see. He could be the one :)
2006-10-16 04:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes to a point but don't get you hopes to high. Like you said give it time. Have you guys ever talked about what you guys mean to each other? If it is ment to be it will happen. Good luck in love.
2006-10-16 04:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure seems to me that he does still care for you otherwise he wouldn't keep in contact with you..If you still like him then give it some time to work everything out and see where ti goes from there...
2006-10-16 04:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful and protect your heart. Your falling for someone who is not going to commit to you. You to him are only bed mates. Bed mates do not make a commitment. Good luck and I hope I'm wrong about this, but from experience point of view. It will not work.
2006-10-16 04:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋