My b.friend and I have been good friends for two years, and six months ago became a bit more. I've known from the beginning I'm completely into him. He is the stereo-typical Aquarian who is so unemotional and detached it's sickening! Anyway, in his words: he isn't in love with me, he cares, and he could spend his life with me, but he can't promise that he'd ever love me. As an Aries I'm ready to run away, my head says that it's a bunch of crap, that he would feel it now if he were going to love me later. But my heart says that it is possible, that he's the type that has to trust completely in order to give love. Which should I follow? On one hand I feel that we are well suited, we agree on spiritual paths, what we expect out of relationships, etc. The emotional detachment is the only problem. Maybe love is over-rated?
2006-10-16 03:58:26 · 5 answers · asked by tabby_24_2000_2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
None of this is not BASED on astrology; only giving an idea of personality types by adding the zodiac signs for more understanding to those who study it.
2006-10-16 05:15:59 · update #1
Sounds like an honest man! If he likes and respects you and finds you hot and wants to spend his life with you - call it "Jelly Sandwich" or call it "mature love" - I think you've found something worth hanging onto. His lack of emotionality could come to be a disappointment to you over the years. Think about that seriously. But a sincere respectful guy is good to find. Head swimming, knee wobbling "in love" is overrated, wears off and often leads to terrible long term relationships when you find out you've swooned over a loser.
2006-10-16 04:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Such a similar situation. Known the gf for just under 2 yrs, dating for almost 6 mos, and she's Aquarian (though I am a Cancer). I have feelings for her, deeper than I've ever known for anyone else, and she she says she feels the same way (albeit after a deep heart to heart or a really passionate romp). When we're together, sparks fly like crazy between us. But she goes home and it's a whole other her. It's a struggle for me to remember that she really does care when sets up plans w/ her girls like 3 straight nights (she's a very free spirit and has been for as long as I've known her, and I know there's no changing that. Wouldn't want to) But it's like she has no emotion until we get together and I feel like that burden is put on me b/c she could go forever, with or without my affection or letting her affection for me be known. Just remember that true love is rare and few have experienced it, so don't underestimate that you may not know why you feel what you feel right now. Moreover, love is going to require some risks. I think you owe it to yourself to assess the situation further seeing as you asked this question. Set up boundaries and limits for what you will let yourself endure, see if you can master them and see if he doesn't fall into what you decide for yourself. Best of luck. Feel free to email me if you want as this situation hits so close to home, I am rapt with anticipation re. the outcome.
2006-10-16 04:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if you call people growing to love one another mature love,but it is possible for people to grow closer together after being together for a long period of time.a lot of people generalize other by zodiac signs.i usually don't,but i will say that the aquarians that i know,both men and women,are very intelligent and bore easily.they seem to need new experiences or challenges to keep life interesting for them.they also don,t like to appear vulnerable even though most of them are sensitive and very caring.if he hinted at the possibility of being with you long term,he probably does love you more than he is willing to admit.if the relationship is good between the two of you,enjoy it.if he wasn't into you, he would be gone already.good luck!!
2006-10-16 04:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by stoneripple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up the silly stuff. Astrology never amounts to much. If you like him you like him an vis versa. Stop over thinking and enjoy the moment of just being together.
2006-10-16 05:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a lot of nonsense-mature love?????????????
love is love-romantic love is a WOW-a chemistry-like your blood has been replace with a joyful drug
that's what nature intended-it's great-may come just once in a lifetime-so if you experience it-cherish for all times
2016-01-10 12:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋