I know I asked this before. I don't think I elaborated well enough. My wife, whose in her 40's masturbates with a vibrator. She seems to want it more then me. However she does tell me all the time that I satisfy her. I never turn her away when she wants it, however she turns me away when I want it. She has done it in front of me. I enjoy watching her get the pleasure from it. But often she waits until I leave the house then she does it. Then if I ask her to make love I get "oh I am not in the mood. Oh I don't feel good", etc... So supposedly I satisfy her, as she says I am big and I am good in bed. So is it that she just wants more? Even though I would give her all she wants. Or is it that it's just easy "getting off" alone? I know more women masturbate then admit too. So I don't know if this is normal or not. BTW: we've been married less then a year.
2006-10-16 03:54:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
as we grow up we are supposed to replace self-pleasure methods with sexual contacts with someone else, i am not sure if u can define this as "normal" or "abnormal" because after all she can do whatever she wants to do.
what sounds a bit worrying is that she waits for u to leave the house to do it or that she tries to avoid contact. So u satisfy her and she prefers the vibrator. if we believe her, and we have reason not to, then she prefers the vibrator for some other reason, other than whether u satisfy her or not. i dont know what this reason may be, she is the only one who does, i only have some ideas about what it might be: she may is used to it, she used to do it a lot before, she knows the way to get a lot of orgams without too much effort, she may need more sex and doesnt want to burdain you, she may feel more free and relaxed while alone etc. I do believe this is not a clearly "sexual" issue, it is a relationship issue: most women prefer sex over masturbation because they get attention, they get caddles, they get kisses, they get touching and so on. Perhaps she has an intimacy issue. think about her behaviour in general, how good she is at expressing her feelings, how close u feel to each other, how intimate and familiar u feel with each other.
Tell her u re not feeling comfortable with this, and tell her that u are available for her any time so she doesnt need the vibrator.
2006-10-16 04:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by kourtina1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
instead of complaining, you should be grateful that a vibrator satisfies her cravings. a lot better than a man on the side to pick up the slack.
2006-10-16 04:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure. Masturbation is a classic element. a suited occasion of using it for self exploration is a toddler. babies masturbate, not lots for the sexual excitement of it, yet for the self exploration. that's how they decide they have what they have down there! I masturbate on my own, with toys, with my husband, on digital camera, in the ineffective of night, and everywhere else in between. aside from being exciting it extremely is an stunning thank you to income approximately myself not in basic terms in a actual experience, yet a psychological experience besides.
2016-10-16 06:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just lazy and selfish it seems she doesn't want to satisfy you.
2006-10-16 03:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she gives herself a better orgasm than you do, if so, why don't you give her pleasure with the vibrator
2006-10-16 03:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by insane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women feel ashamed to admit their secret sexual things etc..
i dont know why, though.
2006-10-19 00:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Martin the baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its means she preferr her toy more than u
2006-10-16 04:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal
2006-10-16 03:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋