Potty Training HELP!!!?

Question

My daughter is 21 months old and can run around naked without a single peepee accident, the problem?? She WON'T go in the POTTY, she asks for a diaper when she needs to go. THe other morning I got her to sit on the potty until she finally went (an hour and a half later) and when she DID go it prompted her to start a HUGE hissy fit, I kept telling her how good of a girl she was and that I was proud of her. She soon settled down and started clapping. SHe helped me clean out the potty and all. I have been trying it ever since with no luck, she will hold it for over an hour or start crying. I am afraid she is going to give herself a bladder infection.

I KNOW she is ready because she has SHOWN me that she CAN hold it and she CAN feel it!! She hates wet diapers and panties (or those thick training pants) but yet it takes FOREVER for her to go!!!

Advice please????

I hav tried running water and a potty baby doll (the kind that wet themselves in their little "potty") and even tried pouring water on her privates (my mom's idea) and putting her hand in warm water (my fiance's idea, her daddy).

We also tried putting her on the big potty. She doesn't mind wet underware but she hates wet diapers. Go figure! :-) I am going to just have to keep trying!!

I have tried the toy, she is not scared of the potty, if anything she is a little scared of the big potty. As for the hour and a half, that was HER choice, I didn't FORCE her. I NEVER force her to stay on the potty, she does it by choice and just tells ME to sit with her. I tried the book idea too and putting her on the big potty. Stickers don't mean anything to her and treats don't either, the ONLY thing she loves and can't have is Oranges (she gets rash when she poops because of the acid) and she is NOT allowed to have it until she is potty trained. SHE goes to the potty willingly. My only problem is how to get her to GO in the potty, she can do everything else (hold, recognize and WANTS to be potty trained)!! NOthing here is helpful. ANYONE ELSE HAVE ANY ADVICE????

I'll take that back, kellyshelly04, did have some good advice and when I can afford to get a doll (we borrowed the last one) of her own to do that with I will.

I also don't want to be one of those women with a 3 yr old trying to get them on a changing table and change a diaper!!! Both me and my fiance have back problems and have been lucky (she only weighs 19 lbs). Also we are trying to get pregnant, I know I won't be able to pick her up onto the changing table in public (her daddy refuses to change her in the public bathroom because there are too many perverts and he doesn't want them looking at her). I know every pregnancy is different, but I am expecting the worse (just like my last one) so I don't get my hopes up. I had a very rough time, but some how I still enjoyed it, but I know I wasn't able to lift over 15lbs by the time I was four months. I believe my daugher is ABLE to be potty trained and WANTS to be potty trained, now to just DO it!!

Answer 1

she will go when she is ready if you push her she will hate the potty my daughter is 2 1/2 and we started when she was 6 months (sick of diapers already) but now she has good days and bad days and sometimes she will poop in her pull up and then say potty its frustrating but you will get through it i promise here try this...put a radio in the bathroom and turn her fav. song on and she might want to sing while going ortake an entire day and try ituse the morning to train her baby doll use chocolate covered rasins and put it in her diaper and teach her accidents and then let her take the baby to the potty and you secretly put the rasins in the toilet and then get excited yay she went potty have a big lunch or some sort of treat. in the pm do the same thing but use your child then throw a potty party keep some spares and throw the other diapers away (if she wants to and has gone all day)give her rewards when she goes m+ms or
you could use a potty chart... get fun smiley stickers and a big bag of m+ms when she pees give her 1 sticker on her chart and 1 m+m if she poops give her 2 stickers on her chart and 2 m+ms. if she knows she will get a m+m for going potty she might wanna go more often i am telling you it works i have 2 and both are potty trained and my aunt has 6 kids and all 6 of hers were done that way so try it good luck!!

Answer 2

You can buy a potty seat he can use on the adult potty, or you can make him use the little one. Either way you'll probably have to stay in the bathroom with him until he goes for the first few months of potty training. Don't expect him to be able to go in there and take care of it himself. Grab a book and plant yourself until he goes. Don't make it stressful. You can offer a reward of some kind if he uses either potty (like two m&m's). Be patient even if he's not and don't worry. Training takes time.

Answer 3

This worked with my son but may not for a girl. I used to put cheerios in the toilet and let him pee on them. He liked having target practice. My daughter never really had a problem because she likes to do everything grown ups do. If your daughter has watched you go but still refuses try having her go in the bathroom with a bigger kid her own age maybe a cousin or friend. Just remember that for her whole life she's been going in her diaper so it may take a while.

Another suggestion would be to put her on the potty once every hour and read her a favorite book or even a potty book. If she goes great if not then that's okay too. That way she gets used to the potty and you're not in the bathroom for an hour and a half.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Try putting on regular underwear and tell her she is a big girl now and that only babies need diapers. When she does go on the potty give her a special treat that she wouldn't normally get and make a HUGE deal of her going potty. You can also go to the library and get a video or a few books on potty trainer that you two can watch together.
It is a matter of trial and error on what works for what child. Our daughter was very easy to train. I place the potty in the living room when she was watching TV i sat her on it and she eventually pulled the potty out herself. My son on the other hand would not use a potty he wanted to go on the toilet but some times he waited too long. I am sure in time you will get it! Good luck!!

Answer 5

Well...I have a 4 1/2 year old boy...and he is FINALLY potty-trained (but still has accidents at night when he is sleeping). I tried a reward chart with him, where I would put those little star stickers on there everytime he went potty. When he reached so many stars, he would get a prize. I have a prize bag of little trinket toys, and he is able to pick one out. Also, I sometimes give him a book to read while he sits on the potty..sometimes that takes their mind off of what they are actually doing. My little boy takes forever on the potty too (with #2)...but I just try to be patient, give him his privacy (he's at that stage now where he wants the door closed a bit), and let him do his thing. Good luck to you guys! :)

Answer 6

She may be afraid of the potty. Save a step and have her use the grown-up potty. Show her that you use it too. Be patient. Waiting an hour a day for a month is going to save you a lot of trouble in the future. You are already ahead of the game. Be proud of her and yourself. Some people don't get their children potty trained until they are three or four.

Answer 7

Go straight to the loo, buy her a big girl step and big girl seat so she can sit on the loo. I feel potty training is a waste of time. She finally gets it then gets told now use the loo. Really big her up and make the bathroom fun, put pictures on the back of the door, her own special wipes, let her choose the step and seat with you.

My daughter was on the loo and no mention of a potty. she loved being a big girl like mummy.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Make a chart on the fridge. Give her a sticker (let her pick it out) every time she goes. Also, try not to make it such a big deal if she won't. I just always kept the potty there for my daughter and had her sit down and try to go whenever I did. If she didn't, we just went out of the bathroom and we would try again later.

Good luck!

Answer 9

I agree with some of the previous posters in that she just has to be ready to do it. My daughter went through several stages with the potty. For awhile, she'd use it if I sat her on it, then she didn't want anything to do with it. I was starting to get frustrated and I'm sure she picked up on that. Then one day--boom--she just started doing it. I bought her special panties that she wanted to wear, and that seemed to help things along. If you try to force it, she'll likely just dig in and make it take even longer. Just try to go with the flow, so to speak!

Answer 10

Have you tried putting her on the "big girl" toliet? Let her sit on it and you sit in front of her (holding her under her arms) My son is 20 months and this is what I do with him. He goes everytime we put him on it. But the second we dare to think about just putting him on the potty chair he throws a fit! Another thing we do is spread his legs wide enough so he can watch what he is doing. He seems to get more satisfaction out of the fact that he can see that he is doing it and is happy to know he is doing good.

Good luck, take your time. All kids are different and when she is ready she will let you know!