I'm guessing that her crying is because she knows her teacher is not there waiting for her and she gave my daughter some assurance. What can I do now??? I just spoke with the director of the daycare and they are looking for a new teacher. In the mean time what can I do to help her? I don't like hearing her crying when I walk out the door.
2006-10-16 03:40:30 · 9 answers · asked by gloribelllebron 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
A couple of tricks I've learnt with my son: when you arrive you could try pointing her towards an activity you know she enjoys (the more enthusiastic you are the better!), or suggest she joins a particular friend. Alternatively, try leaving her with the same member of staff every day, to give her a bit of the security she feels she's lost. I also find that keeping the routine before and after pre-school very structered makes my son feel secure. (e.g. consistently having a try on the toilet before we go in, always bringing the same snack when I pick him up...)
Finally, I've noticed that my son picks up on how I'm feeling about things so be understanding but firm when you leave her. When she starts getting upset, try to remember that she soon cheers up once you're gone, and remind yourself of all the things she gains from being there, and maybe she'll feel a bit calmer about going too.
Hope things improve soon!
2006-10-16 03:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by inimitable_heidi 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Toddlers just want Mommy, all the time and that is fine. If you know that the daycare is a great place and she is being loved and cared for there, you just have to force yourself to turn around and leave as quickly as possible. It is very difficult, and especially more difficult now with the loss of a favorite person in her life. If you let her manipulate you over this, it will not take long for the toddler to be ruling the roost. You do not want this to happen, as I am sure you want your daughter to be a loving and respectful person and you need to be the boss and in control as much as is possible. You have to know that as soon as you are out of sight, she will be excited about her day and spending time with the other kids. This is the way of life, and though it will nearly rip your heart out to hear her cry, you have to hang tough and walk away. When you pick her up later in the day, spend a lot of time talking to her about what went on during the day, so that you can both reconnect in a positive way. She will probably settle in after a few days. You should be ready for another bout of clingyness when the new teacher comes on board, she will need a few days to adjust again. Hugs to you both and best of luck.
2006-10-16 03:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is crying because she knows she has to stay and it is the only way she knows how to keep you close. Just leave, do not turn back to coddle her or reassure her. If you know that you are leaving her in a secure environment, then leaving a crying toddler just comes with the territory. Eventually she will get it and begin enjoying the place as soon as she walks through the door.
2006-10-16 03:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have done childcare and preschool for 30 years. You can not tell how your child feels about their day care by how they act when you come and go. I've had my happiest students throw the bigest fit and the kids that are often not so happy practically shut the door on the parents...telling them "bye mom". Also parents probably know it goes both ways. I would not be alarmed
if kids cry when their parents are picking them up and they want to stay at the daycare.
2006-10-16 05:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Dino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her crying is natural. It is called separation anxiety, over time it will decrease, but for now it will be hard on you. You are naturally concerned because it is your mother instincts to fix what is wrong with your child. She propably didn't have the problem with the resigned teacher because she felt security and that was her "second mother" so to speak, she had another "protector", since the teacher is no longer there, she is kinda "lost" and doesn't have a "bond" to hold onto when her mommy isn't there...a lot of children develope independent skills with this behavior, it makes them rely on themselves for the security, and it isn't a bad thing...too much such as abuse is bad, but what you are doing isn't abuse, it is nurteuring...it is okay, it is hard on your feelings but, over time she will "bond" with a new friend and know that it is okay when mom leaves because she knows that mom will come back..give it time.
2006-10-16 03:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by cdb774 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big deal out of her crying. Just bring her in say good bye mommy will see you after work. Then leave. She knows that if she cries mommy stays longer. we all go through it don't feel guilty she will get over it in a week or two.
2006-10-16 04:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 12:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by briscoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All children do this when their parents leave them. they have to get used to the idea. in time she will see mommy has to leave and start playing with the other kids.
2006-10-16 03:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by SHERIKA M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave, she will be fine. She knows what she is doing, she knows if she cries you will give her the attention she wants. Kids have to get used to change, life changes everyday.
2006-10-16 03:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by dmgoldsbo7 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋