I dated my ex for about 4 years. We recently broke up about a month ago but kept talking and hung out once and awhile. I loved her and still do love her. She says she loves me too but doesn't know what she wants. We now talk and hang out more than before, but I don't want to get hurt again. We decided to start from the "talking" phase of a new relationship and see what happens. What does all this mean? Are my chances of getting back together good?
2006-10-16 03:25:10 · 10 answers · asked by Lee M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like she is either confused or wants her cake and eat it too. can't have it both ways. find out just what she thinks the problem is and go from there.
2006-10-16 03:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by kittymeow63 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes couples go through an adjustment period of one or the other person isn't feeling okay about some aspect of the relationship. It may just be that you two needed some space to get some perspective. It might work out, it might not. During this "inbetween time" if I were you, I'd watch and see how it's going, and how you both are feeling about the future together. Keep talking to her! ask how she's feeling, and ask her if there's anything she wants to talk about. Sounds like she still loves you. Hang in there... it will all work out the way it's supposed to!
2006-10-16 10:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by JP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should both prolong the cooling-off period; give her some more time since it appears she needs it. Don't allow her to string you along but perhaps you both should lay off each other for a couple of months. If you feel the way you do and her feelings are a little more coherent, it would sound like a good deal. Right now, things appear a little foggy to her. It's not the greatest reaction you were hoping for but it's not inherently bad. Sometimes you just need the time and be able to step outside the situation for a while to see where you ought to stand.
All the best.
2006-10-16 10:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tarun Banerjee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something that she's not getting from the relationship with you. Four years is a long time. Did she want a ring/proposal? Is your job secure? Is age a factor? You should find out what exactly it is that she wants and go from there. If she's still hanging out with you it is because the relationship is comfortable so there should still be a chance. But, she is hurting you by hanging out if there really isn't a chance and she's just hoping for something better to come along.
2006-10-16 10:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by dena_lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well this could be her easy way (in her mind) to let you down
then again, she may just be confused and she wants to make sure that this is best for both of you to remain together
you need to talk to her face to face and not only listen for her response, but watch how her body language is when she responds, does she look away or seem overly nervous?
body language is the best way to get the truth out of someone, facial expressions tell everything
2006-10-16 10:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by gardener24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are obviously good.
She wants to spend time with you either talking on the phone or whatever. Chances are you will be back together soon.
2006-10-16 10:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Magicman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you do it man, Its a hard road and even though me and her were together for only 14 months I still miss her and its 5 months. Good luck.
2006-10-16 10:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if it was up to me i would if i was you because maybe she just need some time to think some think thing over and then from there you and your ex-girl can sit down and talk about you and her relationship.
2006-10-16 10:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by Creshonna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think she's getting your hopes up she's can't love you but not know what she wants if she'd love you she'd be with you end of story.
~shadow~
2006-10-16 10:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes playin u dump her and go with somebody who deserves u good luck
2006-10-16 10:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by clare_knt 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋