I work with my boyfriend and he apparently only loves and cares for me in his own way but he says he is not In-love with me, but he says he would like to see if he can fall in-love with me.
What shall I do? should I try to no see him everyday, should I give him a chance to see if his feelings grow? I find he gets annoyed frequently which makes me believe he doesn't love me as much either.
I love him. What should I do?
2006-10-16 03:23:24 · 13 answers · asked by Treasure 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just turned 38. I agree that I don't have much time to lose. Man his age can get someone younger. For example, my causin who is 22 is now going out with a 37 year old man. She is happy, she said.
I personally don't like older men, nor too young either. I'm so out of dating... I feel old.
2006-10-16 06:16:52 · update #1
oh! When we broke up last year by this year in April, he asked me back. I think it's my fault b/c I never stopped calling him. I kept trying to find out who he was dating, and what he was doing. Call me crazy in love. I lost touch on how to make a man feel interested in me. He asked me back sincerely, and told me he loved me one day while I was sleeping but I heard him. I remember when I was young that when a guy say "I love you" during love making, or while in bed, don't believe them. He's just running by emotions. I don't know what keeps me from not leaving him... If I can just find someone else that loves me trully.
I believe he used to be in love with his ex but later found out she got engaged and married. Now she's looking for him and he is sort of interested. B/C of me he said he wont speak to her but he will keep her as his friend for life. (I'm stupid right? falling for this guy).
2006-10-16 06:23:56 · update #2
If this is the same guy that you posted the question about two months ago then you need to move on. How many years of your life to you want to waste on this guy hoping that someday maybe he will suddenly fall in love with you. He sounds like he has a problem with committment or he is just not ready to settle down. If you are in a sexual relationship with him then this would explain alot about his behavior, he loves the sex but doesnt love you and therefore he is confused. Either that or he is just stringing you along and telling you what you want to hear so he can keep getting the sex without making a committment. Either way you need to move on.
2006-10-16 03:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are about repetition and sex and continuity. If you are not living with him yet .. you need to start there to see if the feelings will be there when you are around each other 24/7. Make sure that you stick it out for longer than 3-6 months and make sure to try to give him sex daily and do what he asks of you...
(Be loyal and responsive to his needs) as well as clean up after yourself when you are living together. I know this seems really simple and silly .. but believe me it works. They say it takes 30 days to start a new habit or routine and 90 days to break a bad one. Love is not about what you get or what you want to give to or from another person it is about listening and giving the other person what they feel & think they need, want, and percieve as Love.
For example a guy builds his wife a new roof for the house and says look what i did for you because I love you. While the wife what she really needed and would feel loved from is a back massage. The guy valued the roof as a sign and way to show love by physcial labor for her .. but she has a different need and idea of what makes her feel loved. We all do thing we think would be a way to show someone we love them but rarley do we focus on what they communicate thier needs rae and what makes them feel loved and do it even if we get no self gratification from it.
If you become his new routine and habit and he is getting what he needs.... I do not know a guy who would not grow feelings of love, trust, care, & concern. Once you build on those tried and true feelings that then you can really grow from there.
Good luck hopes it helps.
2006-10-16 03:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by hotredhead2655 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to have some more time apart, is there a way you could still work together, just not be together while you are at work. Spending time away after work helps too
2006-10-16 03:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend it sluggish aside. Do issues with the gals. relax with the father and mom. discover something which you want to do. in simple terms get away for a on the same time as. My bf and that i are long distance, so we basically have weekends. issues are not getting boring! I wish i ought to work out him greater, notwithstanding that is super to have seperate lives. Take an afternoon or 2 each week to have "you" time. in simple terms you and your bf can do his very own ingredient.
2016-10-19 11:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by briscoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some space. its hard if you work together, but maybe only see him outside of work on the weekends or something, or try not to talk at work so that you have more to talk about outside of work?
i understand, i worked with my bf for about a year. it was hard cause we practically live together too. and it was a small company, only 10 of us at the most at any time, and a really small building, so we were always together. i think he got sick of me a lot. but he tried not to show it. so i found another job and now i just bug him on-line all the time, and at home. :)
how long have you been dating? my bf got annoyed with me a lot, but he couldnt really get rid of me. i was the receptionist and i went with him to shows and to fix things at the schools he worked at (just because of the so few people that worked there). i think he finally started apreciating me, but only after i was gone and he didnt have someone to complain to anytime he wanted.
2006-10-16 03:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you both work together but try to do your own thing. While your at work, concentrate on work. During your spare time find something you enjoy doing so you wont spend alot of time with him. Dont depend on him to make you happy. Guys hate to be clinged too.
2006-10-16 03:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would totally ignore him if I were you.. don't let him know that you want him to want you. Don't give him the upper hand, he is trying to play a really stupid game with you and you shouldn't play it. If he decides that he is "in love" with you, then he will find you and he will let you know. You don't need to try to coax it oout of him. He just wants you to b/c it makes him feel more powerful.
2006-10-16 03:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by maggielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be with someone who loves you in every way not just his. if he isnt in-love w/ u then wait till someone does. Stop wasting ur time. He sounds selfish
2006-10-16 03:26:59 · answer #8 · answered by Diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that you need to give a chance to see how he really feels. He certainly hasn't completely turned you off yet....
2006-10-16 03:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont leave him alone because he might think you have gave up to dont talk to him as much as u have he'll notice the sudden change and ask u wats goin on
2006-10-16 03:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Firestarter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋