when loving starts hurting -literally-, how do you tell your boyfriend that his size is hurting you... without hurting his feelings? how do you work on it afterwards?
2006-10-16 02:56:18 · 15 answers · asked by girliegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately I experienced this same prob.
My wife has female probs and when it came time to loving...she just told me...she can't take it all. We are in love and I don't want to lose her.
Yeah, most men think about having one that is big but some (most) women don't like it.
So, the best thing I can suggest if he is to big...tell him straight out...it's to big for you.
If you wanna stay with him, find a position that is right for you.
If you don't wanna stay with him, find a different man that is smaller
2006-10-16 03:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hate to say it but by telling anyone their penis is too big or too small you are settign yourself up to be judged as shallow or a size queen or worse.
What you need to do is work with yoru sex partner so they know how to offer you the best possible pleasure whether they have 2 inches or 12. Through practice every guy no matter how big or small his penis can always learn the ways to please whomever he is with sexually.
2006-10-16 15:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him that you hurt after having sex and that you need to work together to find a position that does not hurt. You also need to make sure you are well lubricated and take it slower for now. Vaseline works best when you need something that will last a little longer and soothe the soreness as well.
Your body will adjust in time. Then you will be enjoying many positions without the complications you are experiencing now.
2006-10-16 03:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by flutterbybug4me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just tell him.. pick the appropriate time of course.. and tell him.. "my love (or whatever u call him), you know.. your baby is kinda big... "
As long as you say it in a nice way.. chances are, he will respond to you in a nice way too..
2006-10-16 03:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by sexy_jenneth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him. his ego will go through the roof.You can put a c**K ring on it to the point where it doesn't hurt you. If he's an understanding guy and loves you he'll do it.
2006-10-16 04:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has it hurt this way with other guys and/or smaller ones??
whatever the answer.... I think you should go see a doctor and very soon... when is the last time you had your annual female exam?? you likely have a female problem going on... hopefully you do not need a hysectomy (sp?)
2006-10-16 03:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by RIG 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
thats not gonna hurt any guys feelings hearing that, i guess you gottta get on top for sex that way you have more control, or invest in some lube.
2006-10-16 02:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried using lubricants?well,even without voicing it to him,your response whenever you both are in 'bed' would send the sure signal to him.if you truly love him,try lubricating & you will get used to it.
2006-10-16 03:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him it hurts and go slow,the olny feeling in this is that its hurts you and he should be a men about.
2006-10-16 03:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B4 you tell him, try it with lots of lube and do it cowgirl so you can control things.
2006-10-16 03:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋