My boyfriend's grandmother recently passed away and we will be attending the wake and funeral. Are we supposed to bring our son along with us? We are not sure how he will behave in a church for a funeral. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
2006-10-16 02:51:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes bring him if you can manage him. Children are a very positive affirmation of new life and hope when facing the sadness of someone's death. I've always found that people, especially older ones, appreciate the presence of children and often comment positively about it.
2006-10-16 02:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Zee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO! A wake and funeral is no place for a two-year-old. He does not have the patience or understanding to behave. He will be disruptive and the other people in attendance will not be happy with his presence. A funeral is a somber occasion in which respect must be shown for the deceased and the immediate family. Take it from me, a preacher that is around a lot of children---there are occasions when young children should not be present and a funeral is one.
2006-10-16 02:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, especially if you do not think you can make him be quiet and still. He is only 2, take him to a sitter where he can play or take a nap. Go to the wake and funeral with your boyfriend so that you both can pay your respects, if there is a family get together after wards then maybe go get your son for that.
2006-10-16 02:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by MrsBear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would bring a 2-year-old. He's too young to understand what's going on (which is a good thing - because a bunch of people staring at a dead lady is kind of wierd and scary, anyway), but if he starts making noise some people won't be able to hear the eulogy, sermon, etc. A lot of the people there would be hard of hearing anyway, and it may be very important to them to be able to hear what's being said.
If you have to bring him because you can't find a babysitter or whatever, at least sit where you can easily make a break for it without disturbing everybody if he gets antsy. As soon as he starts to act like he'll be making a lot of noise, get him out of there.
2006-10-16 02:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was two my great-grandmother died. My mother chose not to take me. At 36 it has not affected my life in the least. He probably won't behave, it will be a solemn time, and it's hard for children to be quiet. Everyone will understand. They say funerals are for the living, not the dead, and I doubt he will really mind staying home.
2006-10-16 02:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by bleunumen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every physique has to attend their first funeral a while, yet i don't comprehend your daughter so in basic terms you may make the suited call in this. i don't think of that's in basic terms too youthful, now could be a solid time to start explaining to her what is going to take place with the dying and the funeral so as that she knows. whilst the extremely time comes you ought to ask her if she could prefer to be there. She is sufficiently old to return to a call.
2016-10-16 06:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no question ab out your bringing your 2 year ld son to the wake and funeral, anyway its up you whether you can help him baehave in that place. one thing is that the two year old son do not know wht really happened or happeniong in that place. he is still young and ignorant about that matter
2006-10-16 02:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's never been in church before, I wouldn't suggest this to be his first experience.
Most 2 year olds have no idea what's going on at a funeral.
If there's visitation, w/o the body present, I would see no poblem allowing him to be there.
2006-10-16 03:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by azar_and_bath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say NO.I'm 54 and I remember my Grandpa's wake when I was 4 yrs old like it was yesterday.My grandpa was a cowboy and a lumberjack,but I still see him lying there,in a suit he never would of worn with big Rosy cheeks ,looking like a wax dummy.Forget about it !
2006-10-16 03:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by AngelsFan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. He will not understand and the weeping and sorrow will be transmitted to him. You yourself will most probably be worked up and this will not help either. And your boyfriend will surely be heartbroken so I don;t really think it is appropriate to take your son along. Sorry about the loss.
2006-10-16 02:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by London Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋